How Do I End a Relationship When My Partner is Depressed?

[FrogPad]

Although I'm in a relationship, I still pursue an active social life with girls. I meet new ones often enough, chat with them, and just have plain old fun.

I'm just too young to be restricted from meeting people. I never understood why it was wrong, so I just do it now. My girlfriend is aware of this and she doesn't seem to mind. She does have some insecurities about it, but that is something she needs to workout for herself. She has every right to meet other guys too. I'm fine with that.

The risk of cheating? Sure, it's always there. But I think if you are always active talking to the opposite sex and hanging out with them, that you are less likely to cheat. Cheating for me seems to spur because people feel restricted to talk to the opposite sex, and when the opposite sex shows interest, they seem to jump into it quickly and then they risk cheating on their partner.

I noticed that girls would date me and that girls like me. It isn't new for me anymore. So, when a girl likes me, it's just the way it is. I don't feel the tendency to "cheat" and so on. It's a great feeling to have people admire you. You might ask, doesn't your girlfriend admire you? Sure she does, but naturally people need more than just that, or it seems that way anyways. Basically, people like being liked.

I'm just going to stop now. I have work to do. Maybe I'll carry on the discussion another day.

But in general, the way I look at it is...

It's perfectly normal to crush on another person while dating a person. The problem arises when a person acts inappropriately to that feeling, and "cheats" on their partner. People admire people. Therefore, the reason for being socially active is because you can handle these feelings in a mature fashion through experience.

Note: If you think your partner will never admire another person, you live in a naive world.

Sounds like you have a good relationship, and a good girlfriend. It also sounds like you know what you want. I think those are all the things that keep one from not crossing "the" boundaries.

Just to clarify. I wasn't saying that while in a relationship, you can't speak to the other sex. If that's the case you get out as soon as possible. I was just saying you get to "talk" to those people. You know... a little bit more eye contact. A touch here and there. A little smile. A whisper, a hug, hug leads to kiss, etc...

those are the kind of talks you prolly shouldn't be having in a relationship. At least with others.

 

[rhuthwaite]

Its been close on three years. But I have been going out partying and having a good time without him (probably a better time without him) and too his horror I was mates with a lot of guys (even though they were breaking the "guy code" whatever that is because they were single). As for flirting that never really stopped (don't think I cud - I am a natural flirty person), just got tamed down a bit. I am just going to have to find someone to have the occasional quite saturday night with though

 

[JasonRox]

Just to clarify. I wasn't saying that while in a relationship, you can't speak to the other sex. If that's the case you get out as soon as possible. I was just saying you get to "talk" to those people. You know... a little bit more eye contact. A touch here and there. A little smile. A whisper, a hug, hug leads to kiss, etc...

Touching and smiling is fine by me. The way in which you touch can be a problem though, but friendly touch is fine. It's part of being and getting comfortable. I feel like people are getting more socially disconnected, so by encourage touching among my friends, I hope to build a stronger bond than most people get while being just friends. Also, not smiling is just stupid, so I smile. I'll even smile at girls (and sometimes guys!) that walk by. It's all part of enlightning the atmosphere around you.

I never whisper. My disability makes it difficult.

Hugging wouldn't be allowed unless I became good friends the girl, but that's about it.

Kissing has the obvious answer.

 

[JasonRox]

Its been close on three years. But I have been going out partying and having a good time without him (probably a better time without him) and too his horror I was mates with a lot of guys (even though they were breaking the "guy code" whatever that is because they were single). As for flirting that never really stopped (don't think I cud - I am a natural flirty person), just got tamed down a bit. I am just going to have to find someone to have the occasional quite saturday night with though

Don't stop flirting!

It's fun, innocent and it's you!

Partners may hate it, but that's their problem and not yours.

 

[Cyrus]

What about slapping them on the butt?

No good?.....

 

[rhuthwaite]

Hahaha I am single now trust me I will be flirting! Nothing like dancing, flirtting and free drinks in town

 

[rhuthwaite]

What about slapping them on the butt?

No good?.....

Do you know them? Unless you were hot or offering to pay for a new round of drinks or ready to start up a great conversation a girl in my country would probably slap you.

 

[JasonRox]

What about slapping them on the butt?

No good?.....

I don't think I can do that.

That's crossing the line.

 

[JasonRox]

Do you know them? Unless you were hot or offering to pay for a new round of drinks or ready to start up a great conversation a girl in my country would probably slap you.

That sounds fair.

I slap her in the butt and she slaps me in the butt. :!)

 

[Cyrus]

Do you know them? Unless you were hot or offering to pay for a new round of drinks or ready to start up a great conversation a girl in my country would probably slap you.

Pay for a round of drinks!

She better be a super model for me to pay for her drinks.

It's $6.50 for a wiskey and coke every time I get one. Yeahhh right am I going to buy some random girl a drink for 10 bucks a pop.

Not in a billion million, million, years.

 

[rhuthwaite]

You shouldn't have slapped her butt in the first place
Don't you pay for girls drinks?! Thats not gentleman like

 

[Cyrus]

Hellllllllll No!

You know how many times I've seen a chump buy a girl a drink and the girl says thanks, BUBYE!

What a sucker. $10.00 he just lost.

 

[FrogPad]

Hahaha I am single now trust me I will be flirting! Nothing like dancing, flirtting and free drinks in town

Free drinks... bah.

 

[rhuthwaite]

The guys here are more than willing to pay for drinks! As long as there is a slight chance they might get some...

 

[FrogPad]

Pay for a round of drinks!

She better be a super model for me to pay for her drinks.

It's $6.50 for a wiskey and coke every time I get one. Yeahhh right am I going to buy some random girl a drink for 10 bucks a pop.

Not in a billion million, million, years.

totally with you on that bro.

I have to be hammered to buy a round of drinks, or the girl has to be smoking hot.

 

[FrogPad]

I'm usually a good read on the "get some"... I guess it depends on my mood. 30 dollars some nights is worth it. Other nights... nahh.

I buy if she buys... that's my deal.

 

[rhuthwaite]

$6.50 for a w 'n c is not that expensive I was paying $8 for vodka n lemon the other night and then paid $50 for 3 shots, a b 'n c and a vodka n lemon when I shouted drinks for a couple of people

 

[rhuthwaite]

Thats a good deal I guess. Its a bit more fair

 

[Cyrus]

$6.50 for a w 'n c is not that expensive I was paying $8 for vodka n lemon the other night and then paid $50 for 3 shots, a b 'n c and a vodka n lemon when I shouted drinks for a couple of people

Eh, you forgot. Its $10 cover charge, $4.50 for a each beer (usually have 1 or 2), and $6.50 for a wiskey and coke (usually have 2).

Now throw on top of that me buying some random girl drinks, I don't think so.

Oh, and $5 for the metro train fair to DC...mmmmmmmm yeah, not going to pay for a random chick.

But if you want to buy me drinks, now that I'll be fine with

 

[rhuthwaite]

Is that all you drink for the night? I'll pay for all your drinks! The blokes over here binge hardout that's why no girl offers to pay for them

 

[Cyrus]

Is that all you drink for the night? I'll pay for all your drinks! The blokes over here binge hardout that's why no girl offers to pay for them

My kinda woman. <slaps her on the butt>

Anyways, I'm going to sleep.

Nice foto, Ciao,

 

[rhuthwaite]

Wait! what's a cover charge?
What time is it there?

 

[JasonRox]

I've never bought a lady a drink before.

I wouldn't call that being a gentlemen of any sort. It's like what cyrus said, being a chump.

You're better off being witty if you want to get some.

 

[Mk]

Ehhhh... buying tons of alcohol for a women often means you are more of a guy trying to have sex with them than a gentleman trying to meet them. But they know this the minute they start talking to you, unless you are a pretty good liar.

 

[rhuthwaite]

I am no liar. Guess just saying that when I go to town I generally don't have to pay for drinks, unless i insist or decide its my turn to buy everyone a round.

 

[big man]

I'm usually a good read on the "get some"... I guess it depends on my mood. 30 dollars some nights is worth it. Other nights... nahh.

I buy if she buys... that's my deal.

haha taken out of context here that is the funniest thing I've read in a while.
It sounds like a discussion on bargaining for a prostitute.

Gotta agree with what Jason and Mk said about not acting like a gentleman in general if you are buying drinks to 'get some'.

 

[Danger]

Eh, you forgot. Its $10 cover charge, $4.50 for a each beer (usually have 1 or 2), and $6.50 for a wiskey and coke (usually have 2).

Man, I'm glad that I don't live where you do. (Well, I am anyhow, but that cinches it.)
We walk to the bar, no cover charge unless there's a special band such as when Prism or the Headpins are there, beers are $3.50... (with occassional freebees for being good customers)... and that's in Canuk currency. I generally have 6-15, and W maybe 6 or 10, plus $10-12 for supper and maybe another $5 for a few games of pool. We simply couldn't afford your kind of night-life.

 

[JasonRox]

Man, I'm glad that I don't live where you do. (Well, I am anyhow, but that cinches it.)
We walk to the bar, no cover charge unless there's a special band such as when Prism or the Headpins are there, beers are $3.50... (with occassional freebees for being good customers)... and that's in Canuk currency. I generally have 6-15, and W maybe 6 or 10, plus $10-12 for supper and maybe another $5 for a few games of pool. We simply couldn't afford your kind of night-life.

In Niagara Falls, Ontario, there is a bar that has a $15 cover charge, and $6 beers!

 

[rhuthwaite]

We don't have cover charges at all we just pay for the drinks. Most people drink before they go out then don't buy many when they are out. Or we hit the shot shack before town

 

[FrogPad]

We don't have cover charges at all we just pay for the drinks. Most people drink before they go out then don't buy many when they are out. Or we hit the shot shack before town

shot shack?