big man said:
I don't know man, I'm not sure I agree with this. I mean there is absolutely nothing wrong with being friends with other females while you're in a relationship, but there is a huge difference between acting like friends and flirting with them. I'm sorry, but I just happen to think that flirting is kind of disrespectful and rude. Flirting is something you'd do if you were in a relationship that you weren't happy in. But if you truly loved someone you just wouldn't flirt with every other woman that came your way. I'd say it's perfectly natural for a girlfriend/boyfriend to be uncomfortable if their partner was flirting left, right and centre (not referring to you by the way
). What I'm trying to say is that I don't see it as a bad trait that they just have to deal with, because it is perfectly rational behaviour.
Not that it matters what view either of us takes because in the end I think that if you're in a relationship that really means a lot to you you will lose the ability to flirt, regardless of whether or not you thought it was OK before.
This is kind of another reason why I don't agree with the "it's OK to flirt while in a relationship". I'm not taking a stab at you in any way, but I think that when you flirt during a relationship and you go through some rough patches, then you will start doubting your relationship for no reason, and in the end you might find that you lost a good thing.
This is just what I think based on what I've observed with my friends and from personal experience. In the end you do what works for you and makes you happy I guess.
You make very good points, but I don't "flirt" basically. Just friendly behaviour. That's probably a better way to put it.
I guess you can say you will start doubting the relationship during a rough patch. At this point, I really want the relationship to work.
My problem is that we don't do anything as a couple anymore. We don't go out or do anything. I come up with plans all the time, but she keeps saying no. I got sick of it and told her that. We used to have a blast together, but then it just got boring. Like, why are we together? (I asked her that. It might sound rude, but it's the reality of the current relationship status.)
It also has to do with the fact that she barely puts any effort into the relationship, and among other things. There has been times where we could have been together, but for some retarded reason, we didn't. I got really upset about this.
Anyways, the reason why I made the comment about the cool girls is because I meet lots of girls who will be more than happy to do stuff with me. Just as friends too, since they know I'm seeing someone, as well as they know I want my relationship to work. Therefore, it's clear that I'm taken and that I'd like to stay that way. So, even with that, they want to hang out, which is nice. Because at the moment, my girlfriend never wants to do anything, and I mean that in the literal sense, so yeah if that doesn't change she's out. I do stuff with my guy friends too!
Note: The girls do not know this is why I'm upset (about doing nothing with my girlfriend) about the relationship. So, they aren't hanging out with me for extra points and to show that they are better than my girlfriend because they have no idea about the situation. I don't share that.
My girlfriend doesn't even enjoy driving to my house! Like, that was really annoying because I didn't have a car for like 6 months. Remember the scooter,
. She kept pointing out how I took my car off the road as an excuse, which was utterly stupid because again people will drive over my house just to pick me up and bring me to school. I was also willing to take the bus and scooter to her house, but apparently that's stupid. She doesn't want to be seen with a guy who takes the bus to her girlfriends house!
I don't know. It just got darn annoying. I'm still unsure about the relationship. I told her the issues. Because like I said, we used to do stuff, and now we don't at all.
Anyways, I see her tonight, so we will see what happens.
) One shot that you didn't mention, however, which is a standard surprise birthday gift here is the Prairie Fire. That's a shot of the cheapest tequila available with about a quarter teaspoon or so of Tabasco.
