How do you feel when someone tells you "I love you"?

[Moonbear]

Who said love IS an emotion? That's questionable. People use love to mean sex too.

Seriously, if you want it to mean anything, you need to do much more than say "love". If you're satisfied with that, your standards are low in my opinion.

Or your standards are just very unusual. There is nothing wrong with telling someone you love them when that's what you mean. Just because you've never experienced it, don't knock it. When you finally experience it, you'll understand better.

 

[lisab]

Who said love IS an emotion? That's questionable. People use love to mean sex too.

Seriously, if you want it to mean anything, you need to do much more than say "love". If you're satisfied with that, your standards are low in my opinion.

A bit cynical.

Of *course* love is an emotion. It's also actions, but when it's an emotion + actions...damn. Then, love is grand...really.

 

[Loren Booda]

Would it be narcissistic to look into a mirror and say "I love you"?

 

[JasonRox]

Or your standards are just very unusual. There is nothing wrong with telling someone you love them when that's what you mean. Just because you've never experienced it, don't knock it. When you finally experience it, you'll understand better.

But then you're assuming I never did.

I wouldn't be surprised if I felt emotions for someone that were much higher than someone else had for another and they called it love. Just because I won't call it love doesn't mean you can conclude my positive emotions towards someone or something is less. Hence, to conclude I never experienced it because I choose not to express myself that way is basically ignorant to what emotions are in the first place.

Love can only mean so much.

 

[JasonRox]

When you finally experience it, you'll understand better.

Also, to say this kind of implies everyone follows a particular path. Like a father telling his son that one day he will find a special girl and he will understand why girls are special meanwhile his son is gay.

In my opinion, "love" is great but that's as far as it will go for me. If I "love" someone and the relationship dies out, I still consider it a great thing. I shared a great experience of "love" with such a person. And then I move on. Hard of course.

 

[mcknia07]

Our family is big on hugs and kisses. We also always say "I love you" any time we part or end a convo. It's natural and is truly meant. I also say it to my boyfriend, but only when I really mean it (in this case, he said it to me before I said it to him, though). But, I truly do love him and I would not say it, if I didn't mean it. My friends and I say it to each other all the time too. It's more a feeling of telling someone that you care aboiut them and would do anything for them, if it came to it.

 

[lisab]

Our family is big on hugs and kisses. We also always say "I love you" any time we part or end a convo. It's natural and is truly meant. I also say it to my boyfriend, but only when I really mean it (in this case, he said it to me before I said it to him, though). But, I truly do love him and I would not say it, if I didn't mean it. My friends and I say it to each other all the time too. It's more a feeling of telling someone that you care aboiut them and would do anything for them, if it came to it.

This is a generational thing. I'm amazed at how often my daughter and her friends tell each other "I love you". In my circle of friends in high school, we only said that when we were really, really, crazy drunk.

I think today's generation has their priorities right .

 

[mcknia07]

We are just the coolest people ever! That's all there is to it, hehe.

 

[fourier jr]

what happens after someone says it? do they have to get married then or what?

 

[rewebster]

How do you feel when someone tells you "I love you"?

That's why I only watch home shopping channels, and some of those 'food' shows on TV ALL day long!----every other word out of their mouths is 'love' ...

"You'll love it (after you buy it)" ; "We/I love it (because we/I make money off it)" ; "You'll love the favor of this (because YOU deserve it)"...


Love is what makes those shows! Don't you just LOVE it?!

 

[DaveC426913]

But then you're assuming I never did.

I wouldn't be surprised if I felt emotions for someone that were much higher than someone else had for another and they called it love. Just because I won't call it love doesn't mean you can conclude my positive emotions towards someone or something is less. Hence, to conclude I never experienced it because I choose not to express myself that way is basically ignorant to what emotions are in the first place.

Love can only mean so much.

While I agree with almost everything you said, I'm not sure I can follow it to the conclusion. Perhaps it's just me, but I cannot think of an emotion that would be beyond "merely" love, as your words seems to imply there is.

Love is the pinnacle, sort of by definition. Anything more than love and you get into obsession, or worse.

I guess I'm seeing love as the "90 degrees North latitude" of emotion.