How to Discourage Dating & Become Friends

[Danger]

Evo, in uncharacteristic seriousness, I'd have to go with both G01 and Maze. That sounds contradictory, but the reality is somewhere in between. It depends upon both the circumstances of your relationship and the guy's mental state. If you work with him or have other unavoidable contact on a regular basis, never speaking to him again isn't an option. You might, however, have to be very cold to him.
G01 had the best theoretical answer, but it might not be effective. I can say this with confidence, because I used to be that guy. Before I got on the meds for ADD and OCD, I would latch onto a woman like a pitbull. I had to be very seriously shot down in flames to make me let go. Luckily for me, all of those women, after a cooling off period, renewed the friendship. In fact, my best friend married one of them, and I was best man at the wedding. She's been my second-best friend ever since. (All excluding W, of course, who is the very best.)
If you do have to take him down, do it hard and fast. Just consider approaching him in a year or so to see if he still wants to be friends.

 

[larkspur]

Well, like Kurdt, I think it's best to be direct.

But here's Plan B.

Invite him over, do the gumbo thing (post the recipe here!). After dinner, take the plates and place them in on the floor in front of the Froot Bat. When the plates have been licked clean, put them directly back into the cupboard.

He won't be able to leave the house quick enough.

This assumes that he will remain friendly after this incident...probably a big chance that that won't happen .

Good idea lisab!

 

[rewebster]

evo---

what happened with Mr. Clorox?

 

[Evo]

He texted me to wish me a Merry Christmas.

 

[CFDFEAGURU]

You should be wary of a man that does this

Once a week he pours 7 gallons of bleach into his bathtub and let's it sit overnight.

Maybe he is trying to mask what luminal might show. LOL

Sorry, I had to.

Matt

 

[rewebster]

He texted me to wish me a Merry Christmas.

Merry Christmas Evo

 

[BobG]

Well, like Kurdt, I think it's best to be direct.

But here's Plan B.

Invite him over, do the gumbo thing (post the recipe here!). After dinner, take the plates and place them in on the floor in front of the Froot Bat. When the plates have been licked clean, put them directly back into the cupboard.

He won't be able to leave the house quick enough.

This assumes that he will remain friendly after this incident...probably a big chance that that won't happen .

About a year ago, I was on a different website and read a post about a guy who visited a new girlfriend's house for an afternoon and how apalled he was when she French kissed her dog. If his reaction is typical (and the comments of other posters makes me think it was) then I think it would definitely result in his not ever bothering you again.

The poor guy was so shocked he was considering never dating again.

Just a Plan C in case lisab's plan is a little too light.