Flex's later post clarifies that he did not make all these assumptions you ascribe to him:My point is just that some PEOPLE want solutions, some don't. And assuming too much is based purely on gender is probably not a good way to really understand someone. Appreciate that it's possible that she's venting? Yes. Assume it's because she's female? ehhh.... not the best plan.
Flex said:But yes, her words were (almost verbatim) "I called you so I could vent and you keep asking me questions." She might even have used the phrase "second guess" but I certainly didn't second guess anything she said or did... I was just curious because it covered an interesting topic.
That's not what happened. He assumed his expressions of genuine interest would be appropriate but they were rebuffed as making the conversation "a lot of work".Gale said:Assume that "genuine interest" is contrary to what she wanted because she was "venting as females tend to do" is definitely not productive.