To me, the problem with understanding QM doesn't lie in QM itself, but instead lies in the fact that most physicists are human, and humans are for the most part, idiots. Ergo, so-called physicists, (those who speak as if they understand QM, but in actuality don't have a clue) seem to view it as some vastly complex and mysterious phenomena, beyond the comprehension of most mere mortals. Relegated to the realm of mathematics, and probabilities. Understandable only to those few with sufficient education and insight to grasp such things, to which I say bull***t. I believe that QM, and nature in its essence, will prove to be inspiringly simple and elegant at its core. QM, which if truly understood, would appear so simple, that even a child could understand it, is not the mystery that physicists make it out to be. Someday children will marvel at our ignorance of QM, the same way that children nowadays view those who used to think that the Earth was the center of the universe. How could men have been so deluded and ignorant. Of course back then I'm sure that the discovery of objects moving backwards in the heavens, and celestial bodies orbiting other bodies seemed pretty mysterious too. Most things are when you don't understand them.
That said, I too am ignorant, I do not know what the answer is, but I know that it is simple. In my ignorance I attempt to envision a world in which such seeming mysteries, as entanglement and wave particle dualities, can be explained without the need for mysteriously vague concepts like "probabilities".
Imagine a one dimensional string. Waves can move along this string in some form. Now let's coil the string to form a sheet. Likewise let's allow waves to move across the sheet. Now let's take our sheet and roll it up into a three dimensional string, and again let's allow waves to move along this string. Now what would a wave moving along our three dimensional string look like to someone on the rolled up two dimensional sheet? What would a wave moving across our two dimensional sheet look like to someone on our three dimensional string? Let's not stop there, let's take multiple strings, and multiple sheets. What happens then?
There are a myriad ways to fold, roll, and entangle the ten, eleven, or whatever number of dimensions there ultimately are, to produce effects which may seem incomprehensible when viewed from only one or two dimensions, but when viewed as a whole, are not nearly as mysterious, even if they are difficult to model. M-theory with its membranes is only the beginning of what promises to be a glorious journey of discovery. But one which will someday seem as simplistic as our sun centered solar system model seems to us today.
So if you cannot explain the world of QM in layman's terms, it's because you don't really understand it. Forget the frigging math. Envision first, model second. Think outside the box. Be visionary, not dogmatic. It's not what you know that matters... it's what you know, that isn't so.
Nature, is at its core, elegant, simple, and beautiful. If it seems complicated and mysterious, it is only because you fail to understand it.