So the non-dualist's take is that everything about them is controlled by laws. Two people conversing excitedly about the bizarreness of quantum mechanics or Life are like two systems exchanging files. When a person sees his father hit by a speeding car, the emotion and the sadness he experiences is analogous, if not exactly same as, a pc whining "Battery low!".
Laws can control the sensations i perceive but not my response to them. Everyone could be seeing the same thing, say a truck going down the road. but it is my consciousness, or rather ME, that contemplates and pictures the rolling motion of those wheels as continuous toppling(i did automobile engineering), smile at it for a moment and continue driving the other way.
My senses could give me the sight of mountains and rivers. It is ME, who decides to sit down, take in the moment; experience and cherish it. Of course, there could be opposing signals from the brain-
"ah we have seen these mountains all these years. Step on the gas pedal. speed up dude!" "Wheels, toppling,.. hell! Let's think about the girl we saw yesterday. her curvy hips,pouted lips.. and those beautiful pair of.."
"Shut up-!" that's ME.
The Shut up is not bound by any laws. Its plain ME. Like you don't have any reason for a single atomic particle undergoing radioactive decay, like you can't say through which slit the photon came, here I AM! and my "Shut up!"
Call it dualism or whatever.
On a side note, the girl did indeed have a beautiful pair.. of eyes!