Is There a Double Standard in Dating Expectations for Men and Women?

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The discussion highlights the perceived imbalance in relationship expectations between men and women, with men feeling pressured to perform various romantic gestures and achieve financial stability to attract partners, yet often finding that these efforts do not guarantee sexual intimacy. Women, on the other hand, are described as having more straightforward desires, leading to frustration among men who feel their efforts are unreciprocated. Some participants argue that traditional dating norms are outdated and suggest that both genders should contribute equally to relationships. The conversation also touches on the emotional toll of these expectations, with some expressing jadedness about the dating landscape. Ultimately, the thread reflects a complex interplay of gender roles and relationship dynamics in modern dating.
  • #121
don't worry---I was just teasing you and poking fun at you ----you know, that empathy thing
 
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  • #122
Now you have to ask for his phone number.
 
  • #123
WarPhalange said:
Now you have to ask for his phone number.

you mean, I'll tell him that I'm NOT giving him my number and I'm NOT calling him
 
  • #124
rewebster said:
don't worry---I was just teasing you and poking fun at you ----you know, that empathy thing

I hope you're not this bitter in real life over trivial things, because wow...
 
  • #125
I'm having a blast reading this thread! It's very entertaining and I've learned a few things here and there.

Reading all this makes me wish I was single again and having fun out there.:-p
 
  • #126
Jordan Joab said:
I'm having a blast reading this thread! It's very entertaining and I've learned a few things here and there.

Reading all this makes me wish I was single again and having fun out there.:-p

You can look at what's on the menu, you just can't order anything. :-p
 
  • #127
Cyrus said:
You can look at what's on the menu, you just can't order anything. :-p

At some point I'll be ordering again. I'm too damn young not to live life!:biggrin:
 
  • #128
Cyrus said:
I hope you're not this bitter in real life over trivial things, because wow...

thanks, I think... bitter --no----and I hope you have more empathy in 'the real life' than what you post, too.
 
  • #129
Jordan Joab said:
At some point I'll be ordering again. I'm too damn young not to live life!:biggrin:

You can always do things with your wife still. There are tons of stuff you can do together and try out. Take classes together, (Cooking, dancing, I donno), find some activity to try. It will be fun, just don't do something that's mundane. If you two are going to try something new, make it count. Something outside both of your comfort zones.
 
  • #130
rewebster said:
thanks, I think... bitter --no----and I hope you have more empathy in 'the real life' than what you post, too.

Empathy in what way?

Side: I don't know why you're thanking me. I wasnt giving you a compliment, that was pretty obvious. At least I thought so...

*Note, I'm being genuine here. I'm not trying to piss you off.
 
  • #131
Jordan Joab said:
I'm having a blast reading this thread! It's very entertaining and I've learned a few things here and there.

Reading all this makes me wish I was single again and having fun out there.:-p
You really need to get a divorce, you are not ready to be in a commited relationship. It's not fair to your wife. Cut her loose so she can find someone decent that really cares about her, not just for short term sex.
 
  • #132
Cyrus said:
Empathy in what way?

Side: I don't know why you're thanking me. I wasnt giving you a compliment, that was pretty obvious. At least I thought so...
*Note, I'm being genuine here. I'm not trying to piss you off.

hmmmm--what were you trying to do, then?
 
  • #133
Cyrus said:
You can always do things with your wife still. There are tons of stuff you can do together and try out. Take classes together, (Cooking, dancing, I donno), find some activity to try. It will be fun, just don't do something that's mundane. If you two are going to try something new, make it count. Something outside both of your comfort zones.

I'll be completely honest, even though I'm going to try spicing things up, I'm tired of the same woman:frown:

Eating peanut butter & jelly everyday gets old!
 
  • #134
Jordan Joab said:
I'll be completely honest, even though I'm going to try spicing things up, I'm tired of the same woman:frown:

Eating peanut butter & jelly everyday gets old!

have you tried the Elvis variety of it?
 
  • #135
rewebster said:
have you tried the Elvis variety of it?

Dear Lord, I don't know what that is! Explain, please.
 
  • #138
Jordan Joab said:
That's a heart attack in a bun.

(have you told that to your wife lately)

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on the tube right now:

Goldeneye is on (Bond)

"I like a woman who enjoys pulling rank"
 
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  • #139
Jordan Joab said:
I'll be completely honest, even though I'm going to try spicing things up, I'm tired of the same woman:frown:

Eating peanut butter & jelly everyday gets old!

Then just get a divorce already. For all you know, she probably thinks the same thing. One of you just needs to say it. It really just sounds like you married too young, before you really knew what you wanted or who you wanted it with, and now regret it. It doesn't mean either of you are bad people, just that you are really incompatible with one another. You need to find someone a little spicier, and she needs to find someone blander, then you can both be happy.
 
  • #140
rewebster said:
hmmmm--what were you trying to do, then?

Show you that posting childish remarks are not appreciated. I guess that wasnt obvious to you either.
 
  • #141
Moonbear said:
Then just get a divorce already. For all you know, she probably thinks the same thing. One of you just needs to say it. It really just sounds like you married too young, before you really knew what you wanted or who you wanted it with, and now regret it. It doesn't mean either of you are bad people, just that you are really incompatible with one another. You need to find someone a little spicier, and she needs to find someone blander, then you can both be happy.

I agree. Thats why I can't even begin to imagine the people who are married even as young as 25, or 26!
 
  • #142
Cyrus said:
Show you that posting childish remarks are not appreciated. I guess that wasnt obvious to you either.

actually, I caught it all---at least I didn't call anyone childish and bitter
 
  • #143
Moonbear said:
Then just get a divorce already. For all you know, she probably thinks the same thing. One of you just needs to say it. It really just sounds like you married too young, before you really knew what you wanted or who you wanted it with, and now regret it. It doesn't mean either of you are bad people, just that you are really incompatible with one another. You need to find someone a little spicier, and she needs to find someone blander, then you can both be happy.

I know. There's just too much emotionally invested. Plus, I'm afraid of that change since we've been together as a couple since high school. Eventually I'll figure it out. She's smart, I know she already knows what's going on.
 
  • #144
Don't have the balls huh??

You seem like you've already figured it out from previous posts.
 
  • #145
Jordan Joab said:
I know. There's just too much emotionally invested. Plus, I'm afraid of that change since we've been together as a couple since high school.
Taking even longer to get out isn't going to help that any. Besides, really, what emotional investment? Are you waiting until you completely hate each other instead of getting out while it's still amicable? If you think you still have something worth saving, try marriage counseling and see if getting the problems out in the open can solve them. Either way, don't wait until you completely resent one another to make some sort of move. You have to talk about it to fix it, either way it goes.

I could not even begin to imagine still being with my high school boyfriend. We still keep in touch on and off, but egad, life would be boring with him! He likes to play everything safe, by the book, never just wing it, never just do something spontaneous, certainly not pick and move from state to state every few years. The things that attract people in high school just aren't the things that keep you together years later. It's REALLY rare for high school sweethearts to end up in a lasting marriage.
 
  • #146
good that I ve decided not to think about marriage until I reach 40/50 :smile:
 
  • #147
whitay said:
Don't have the balls huh??

You seem like you've already figured it out from previous posts.

I don't think you're in any place to tell another guy he doesn't have the balls to tell his wife he wants to leave her. Thats not an easy thing to say to someone and should be done with care.
 
  • #148
Cyrus said:
I don't think you're in any place to tell another guy he doesn't have the balls to tell his wife he wants to leave her. Thats not an easy thing to say to someone and should be done with care.

I concur - completely.
 
  • #149
Cyrus said:
I don't think you're in any place to tell another guy he doesn't have the balls to tell his wife he wants to leave her. Thats not an easy thing to say to someone and should be done with care.

You're absolutely right. I am not in any place to tell anyone they don't have balls.

But if you care, do you refer to someone as a sandwich?
 
  • #150
whitay said:
You're absolutely right. I am not in any place to tell anyone they don't have balls.

But if you care, do you refer to someone as a sandwich?

I've never heard that before. What does it mean to call someone a sandwich?
 

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