I've felt really lonely as of late

[baywax]

It's a case of both.



Sounds like good advice. I appreciate your thoughtful post.

It's easy to give advice. What's happened to your high school friends? Those are bonds that can be deep and long lasting. I have one friend from grade 5. We used to surreptitiously draw hot-rods and funny cars together in class. We both got into windsurfing and now he's a fanatic. Lots of cool people on the beach.

 

[binzing]

There's some that do though. I've met two this year, amazing girls.

 

[LightbulbSun]

It's easy to give advice. What's happened to your high school friends? Those are bonds that can be deep and long lasting. I have one friend from grade 5. We used to surreptitiously draw hot-rods and funny cars together in class. We both got into windsurfing and now he's a fanatic. Lots of cool people on the beach.

Most of my high school friends betrayed me in the end. The ones that didn't are distant from me now, and are too caught up in other things to reestablish anything.

 

[baywax]

Most of my high school friends betrayed me in the end. The ones that didn't are distant from me now, and are too caught up in other things to reestablish anything.

OK. I doubt that they're too caught up to do something. But, if you've talked to them and that's the response, who needs em!

Betrayed you? What is your definition of betrayal?

 

[LightbulbSun]

Betrayed you? What is your definition of betrayal?

Stopped being my friend on the grounds of an event I wasn't involved in and was unaware of. That kind of betrayal.

 

[baywax]

Stopped being my friend on the grounds of an event I wasn't involved in and was unaware of. That kind of betrayal.

That sounds more like misinterpretation, misunderstanding and poor communication.

Betrayal in my dictionary is sucker-punching, malicious and unwarranted acts of harm to others that are done solely for the benefit of the betrayer. Its a lot like a traitorous act to a nation.

 

[poeteye]

I think you found an answer right here. There are dozens of potential friends on this sight willing to discuss your issues (while bringing up a few of their own). Yes, people can be shallow and self-absorbed (the number one cause of loneliness, by the way), but if you make the effort to reach out, you will be able to demand the effort from your friends, without guilt. Start with a simple request, like: "Can I ask you for a little of your time?"
Explain that you just need someone to listen to you, not to try to come up with some quick answer to your problems. And understand the obligation to listen to what they have to say in response. Consider their opinions and express some gratitude regardless of their response.
You'll find you can't do this and feel lonely at the same time, and when people feel appreciated, they become better friends.

 

[baywax]

Try enjoying yourself before you expect anyone else to do that.

 

[Evo]

I think you found an answer right here. There are dozens of potential friends on this sight willing to discuss your issues (while bringing up a few of their own). Yes, people can be shallow and self-absorbed (the number one cause of loneliness, by the way), but if you make the effort to reach out, you will be able to demand the effort from your friends, without guilt. Start with a simple request, like: "Can I ask you for a little of your time?"
Explain that you just need someone to listen to you, not to try to come up with some quick answer to your problems. And understand the obligation to listen to what they have to say in response. Consider their opinions and express some gratitude regardless of their response.
You'll find you can't do this and feel lonely at the same time, and when people feel appreciated, they become better friends.

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