A.T. said:
The increase in "relativistic mass" during acceleration is due to the energy that is added to the object.
Please don't confuse the OP any further than they already are. Relativistic mass is an outdated concept and should not be used. An accelerating object does not have to have any "energy added" in the sense of increasing its invariant mass; indeed, in the most common case, a rocket, its invariant mass decreases as it accelerates.
Yes, in the object's initial rest frame, its energy increases. But that's frame dependent, and one of the central lessons of relativity is that frame-dependent quantities have no physical meaning. The physics is in the invariants. So that's what should be focused on.
A.T. said:
If all the energy for acceleration is stored on board from the start (like in a spring powered toy car), there is no increase of "relativistic mass" during acceleration.
Again, "relativistic mass" is an outdated concept. Please don't confuse the OP further.
A.T. said:
In its initial rest frame the rope isn't being stretched, it keeps a constant total length. Yet it breaks, in that frame too.
Frame-dependent quantities have no physical meaning. The physics is in the invariants. The relevant invariant in this case is the positive expansion scalar of the congruence of worldlines that describes the rope. That is the invariant that says that the rope is "stretched", and it is the same in every frame, since it's an invariant.
A.T. said:
And the explanation in that frame is that the fields that keep the rope together are contracting.
And the problem with this "explanation" is that it doesn't explain why the rope itself doesn't contract as well, since the fields that keep it together are contracting.
Frame dependent "explanations" always run into problems like this, because, as I've said, frame-dependent quantities have no physical meaning. Plus, having to switch explanations if you switch frames denies the principle of relativity, which is that the laws of physics are the same in all frames. The same laws should lead to the same explanations.