Nobody tells you that there are big differences. You can push an object either with straight arms, accelerating towards it, or with bend arms. The awkward thing is that in the first case Reaction will only decelerate you, while in the second case Reaction will move you backwards. This difference is given by the fact that in the first case Reaction is given by Inertia, while in the second case Reaction is given by elastic forces.
When you push an object with straight arms, accelerating towards it, see the image below, then the math is very simple and clear, given by either Composition of Forces (Vectors) or the Second Law.
Here is the simple math using Composition of Forces. When object A pushes object B, both objects are accelerated by the same force F which is divided into the two forces that accelerate each object
$$F=F_{A}+F_{B}.$$
Action is the force FB that accelerates object B, Reaction is the force that
decelerates object A. We can calculate the force that accelerates (only) object A
$$F_{A}=F-F_{B}$$
So from this equation we can see that
object A will always be decelerated by a force ##-F_{B}## which we defined as Reaction. Thus Action=-Reaction, or from the above image ##F_{B}=-(-F_{B})##.
When you push with your arms bent, in this case you and whatever you are pushing will be accelerated by elastic forces, in which case Hooke's Law, ##F=-kx##, applies, which says that the elastic force is given by the distance x by which the spring restores its length. Below is the case when the two bodies at the ends of the spring have equal mass.
By the way this distance x is a vector, it has magnitude and most importantly
direction, so that the Hooke's Law is correctly written as
$$\vec{F}=-k\vec{x}$$
So, after measuring the distances/vectors ##x_{1}## and ##x_{2}## by which you restore the arm length in both directions, you can calculate the opposite elastic forces.
Also, knowing the distances traveled by the two bodies, you can use the kinematic eq
$$d=\dfrac{at^2}{2}$$
to calculate both accelerations, and then both opposite forces given by the Second Law ##F=ma##.
Both mathematical calculations are interesting, but are actually forbidden by forum rules, because there are no such mathematical calculations in any textbooks anywhere in the world, so I can't help you with that.
PS
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