Kexue,
Instead of repeating the same view umpteen times which is obviously in vain, we should try to get a different perspective. There are essentially two, namely
1) the perspective of physicists during decades where virtual particles were used in calculations significantly advancing science
2) the perspective of physicists of physicists today where perturbation theory obviously meets its limits
First of all two comments: your statement that “… virtual particles are primarily not defined by perturbation theory” is simply wrong.
Then you didn’t understand my statement that “in calculus nobody would say that Taylor expansion is calculus; it's just one tool that applies to a certain problem space and fails dramatically for others”. Both perturbation theory and Taylor expansion are two rather limit tools in a much broader context; that’s what I wanted to say. Looking at the Taylor expansion of 1/(1-x) = 1+x+x²+x³+… and concluding that the function 1/(1-x) is (equivalent with) the entire set of Taylor coefficients {1, 1, 1, …} is wrong. In the same sense the perturbation expansion is not the theory itself!
Now let’s change perspective: one can look at the problem regarding virtual particles from an entirely different point of view, namely from rating progress in fundamental physics:
40 years ago: standard model (theoretically) established: (perturbative) renormalizability of QED, QCD and GSW model; Ok, fine.
Since then the progress (or the points were progress got stuck) is mostly related to non-perturbative methods (or to the lack of knowledge regarding methods beyond perturbation theory).
QCD scale Lambda indicates breakdown of perturbation expansion for low-energy phenomena;
Deep-inleastic scattering / nucleon structure functions F(x,Q²): Q² dependence captured perturbatively (scaling violations), x-dependence entirely non-perturbative;
Confinement, chiral symmetry breaking, QCD vacuum: all treated via non-perturbative methods;
Theta-vacuum, instantons, (merons, sphalerons, …): non-perturbative;
Complete understanding of anomalies (relation to Atiyah-Singer index theorem): non-perturbative;
Canonical quantization of QCD; in the meantime entirely non-perturbative w/o any reference to perturbation expansion or virtual particles at all;
Hadron masses, form factors: from lattice calculations, non-perturbative;
Sponataneous symmetry breaking, Higgs-like mechanisms: non-perturbative;
Perturbative renormalizibity (order by order) is fine, but the perturbation series as a whole does not converge; see my example regarding Taylor expansion; unfortunately the situation with perturbation expansion is much more serious as the radius of convergence is strictly speaking zero (asymptotic series / radius of convergence shrinks to zero in g when higher orders are taken into account)
Looking at quantum gravity: failure of perturbative quantum gravity (instead asymptotic safety which is a non-perturbative renormalization group approach; LQG: entirely non-perturbative from the very beginning)
Looking at string theory: the progress regarding perturbative string theory is tremendous, but there is essentially one big road block, namely that the proof of perturbative finiteness seems to be out of reach; no commonly accepted definition of a measure beyond two loops! Same problem as above, name divergence of perturbation series suspected
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Conclusion:
“Reality” of virtual particles seems to be directly related with their usefulness in calculations. As soon as more advanced methods are developed, other concepts become “real”, whereas older (limited) methods fade away.
Questions to you:
Can something be “real” if it is limited to a rather narrow domain of problems?
Would you agree that in that case we simply “made it real” as we get used to it?
Would you please select a non-perturbative definition of a quantum field theory (e.g. lattice gauge theory w/o any gauge fixing), check some of its equations and show us the definitions of “particles”, “real particles” and “virtual particles” (quarks, gluons, hadrons)?
If from the very beginning of QFT non-perturbative methods would have been available, neither Feynman diagrams nor the term “virtual particles” would have been invented.