there may a little confusion based in varying choices of definition of path length. It seems to me that vanhees' derivation is ok assuming his definition of the arc length. however on its face that definition depends on a choice of the parameter t, hence requires some argument that it in fact is independent of choice. For that reason most authors i have seen give a different definition, that of archimedes, according to which the arc length is defined originally as the limiting value of the perimeter of an oriented polygon formed by a choice of a sequence of points on the curve. It is then proved that the formula vanhees is using does calculate that limit, by appealing to the mean value theorem of differential calculus. this is done e.g. on page 277 of the first volume of courant's calculus. The point is to relate the limiting value of lengths of secants which occur in archimedes' definition (and in zzzhhh's desired limit), to that of the lengths of tangent vectors which occur in vanhees formula.
now i have also found a book where the formula of vanhees is given as a definition, namely the calculus book of Joseph Kitchen. Kitchen however precedes his definition by an argument that the definition is indeed independent of parameter, provided only that certain axioms hold, among which interestingly is precisely the limiting formula desired by zzzhhh. So Kitchen proves, also using the mean value theorem, that any definition of arc length satisfying his axioms must be computed by the formula of vanhees.
So it seems to me there is some work to be done either to justify the formula vanhees is applying, or to prove the desired limit directly from archimedes' definition of arc length.
I.e. the desired limit relates the arc length to the secant length. since velocity vector length is defined in terms of limits of secant lengths, the gap is filled by relating arc length to velocity vector length. Vanhees formula takes that relation for granted. To justify it, one may consult the discussion in courant, pages 277-279. Spivak leaves the topic of arc length to the last few problems in his chapter 15, suggesting one use the MVT. Apostol gives a detailed discussion of arc length deriving all formulas needed here on pages 529-534 of his volume one, in chapter 14. This may be the most detailed and rigorous treatment, as is often the case with Apostol.