If we view the components of [itex]\Lambda[/itex] as functions of six parameters, representing a velocity difference and a rotation, chosen so that we get the identity transformation when all parameters are 0, we can Taylor expand Lambda like this:
[tex]\Lambda(\theta)=\Lambda(0)+\theta^a\frac{\partial}{\partial\theta^a}\bigg|_0 \Lambda(\theta)+\mathcal O(\theta^2)[/tex]
where [itex]\mathcal O(\theta^2)[/itex] represents all terms of second order and higher. Now let's define
[tex]\omega=\theta^a\frac{\partial}{\partial\theta^a}\bigg|_0 \Lambda(\theta)[/tex]
and use this Taylor expansion in the equation that defines a Lorentz transformation:
[tex]\eta=\Lambda^T\eta\Lambda=(I+\omega+\mathcal O(\theta^2))^T\eta(I+\omega+\mathcal O(\theta^2))=\eta+\omega^T\eta+\eta\omega+\mathcal O(\theta^2)[/itex]<br />
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Since this holds for all [itex]\theta[/itex], the nth order terms on the right must be equal to the nth order terms on the left for all n. In particular, this means that<br />
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[tex](\eta\omega)^T=-\eta\omega[/tex]<br />
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Note that this is an exact equality, even though it came from a Taylor expansion. <br />
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Also, keep this in mind:<br />
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Fredrik said:
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Recall that the components on row [itex]\mu[/itex], column [itex]\nu[/itex] of the matrices<br />
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[tex]\Lambda, \Lambda^T, \eta, \eta^{-1}, \omega[/tex]<br />
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are written as<br />
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[tex]\Lambda^\mu{}_\nu, \Lambda^\nu{}_\mu, \eta_{\mu\nu}, \eta^{\mu\nu}, \omega^\mu{}_\nu[/tex]<br />
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and that [itex]\eta^{-1}[/itex] and [itex]\eta[/itex] and used to raise and lower indices.
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</blockquote>This means that [itex]\omega_{\mu\nu}[/itex] are actually the components of [itex]\eta\omega[/itex], not [itex]\omega[/itex]. That's why it's anti-symmetric.[/tex]