to survive, i.e. get both my teaching and research done, I have had to work almost all waking hours for decades.
I remember being so tired at the end of a day I could barely think straight, and still trying to force myself to stay up another hour to study.
I also recall thinking about my problems at night while supposedly asleep, to the point where if I felt energetic in the middle of the night i would wake up and get up and put my ideas down on paper.
academics must work extremely hard for years and years. i realize now i have spent far too much time entering comments here on PF, since it has cost me time i should have spent doing research.
that is probably why matt grime is no longer here regularly.
mathematicians often begrudge any time at all they must spend away from their work. it is a struggle to have anything like a normal life with family or friends.
but we enjoy our work, many of us would be considered workaholics.
i am working now, but have gotten in the habit of looking on PF to get a brief respite, as the work i am doing at the moment is not fun research, but painful grading.
our days are completely filled with teaching preparing, grading, doing research, writing it up, applying for grants, giving and preparing talks, doing committee work, traveling,...
i regret somewhat not being home a lot when my younger son was growing up, even to the point where he came home alone as a 9 year old to an empty house.
i think i have mentioned in the old days even working 20-30 hours in a row on weekends when a lot of work was pending.
Many many days I have left home at 8am and returned at 11pm.
best wishes.