I just thought I would chip in with a little bit of my journey to become a mathematician.
I was always rather talented with mathematics, but I was more gifted when it came to music. In grade school, I performed well enough on the IOWA (or whatever that test was way back that we took at public school in the north east) to be sent up two grades in math. This resulted in me starting algebra I in 6th grade, algebra 2 in 7th, geometry in 8th, trig/precalc in 9th, and then calculus in 10th grade (which was all that my school district offered), so I had no formal mathematics during my junior and senior years of high school.
During those two years, I managed to flip through a linear algebra book and a differential equations text that my father had from when he was in college. I was very active in music and made it all the way to play 2nd trumpet in the state orchestra and 1st cornet in the state band my senior year.
Even though I had gotten a perfect 1600 on my SAT (during the late 90s before they changed it or whatever), I decided against going to an Ivy league, and my father was a little against me going exclusively to a music conservatory (which I wanted to do) because he saw my gift for mathematics and science going to waste if I attended a conservatory.
I ended up going to a medium sized (5000ish undergrad) private university that happened to have a great trumpet professor, a great orchestra, and a solid science school. While I was at university, I majored in musicology (basically music history and theory) and managed about 1/3 of my coursework to be a very broad training in the sciences. I suppose I was technically a "pre-med music major". I took 4 semesters of biology, 5 semesters of chemistry, 5 semesters of physics, and pieced in a few math courses (via placement exam I exempted myself from calc 1, 2, and intro differential equations) including: multivariable calc, complex analysis, and a year long course in bifurcations and dynamics.
As far as grad school, I went to a music conservatory for a masters degree in trumpet performance, but having no job prospects and large amounts of debt after my degree, I decided to review a little and take the MCAT so I could actually have a fighting chance of making money during a career, always with the hope of being able to eventually settle down into a career in neurology and play in a semi-professional symphony, or at least a dinner theater or something.
After my first year of medical school, my grandfather and father both passed away (heart disease and cancer) within a very short period of one another. Due to financial and estate matters, I had to take a leave of absence from school to work and take care of things in general.
When I attempted to return to school, I found that I was being declined for every med school loan I applied for (not having my father, who had perfect credit as a cosigner). Needless to say, I tried my best for months to try to come up with a way to finance the rest of medical school, but without any family (or close friends who might have been able) at all at this point to help out, it seemed that fate didn't want me becoming a neurologist.
Since mid-late 2000s I've been trying to get by via freelance music gigs and have been bouncing between cities and in and out of homelessness and employment. Given the almost double digit unemployment rate in the US now, it's not terribly surprising that somebody like me (very little formal employment history, sometimes no legal address, being "overqualified" because I have a masters degree, and no "useful" trade skills) is having trouble finding work. I've gotten a few temp jobs over the past few years, but none have even had the possibility of getting me a permanent employment.
Back in 2009, I met my current fiancee who was a sophomore in college (we're 6 years apart ... it's not that creepy, haha). I've been working odd jobs, getting gigs here and there, and making ends meet for us. I've also been fortunate enough to be able to audit quite a few mathematics and physics courses from her school (for free). I've sat in on two semesters of electromagnetic field theory, a semester (so far) of quantum mechanics, real analysis, algebra, differential geometry, and topology (still this semester).
She's graduating this spring (currently #1 in her class, woot, so proud!) and is applying for PhD programs in I/O Psychology.
My/our plan is for me to work part-time and audit / enroll in a graduate level class or two each semester during her first year (wherever we end up ... we'll know in Feb/April 2012). My plan is to pass all of the PhD qualifiers that the school administers during the following summer and then put in my formal application for PhD candidacy after I pass all of them.
I'm taking the Math subject GRE this April and am already quite confident. I took the general GRE test this past August when it was only $80 (due to the format change) and my "estimated score range" that is given at the end of the test was 750-800 on both the verbal and the quantitative ... so we'll see on Nov. 1st how I actually did with the new scoring system.
I know my current strategy is a bit unorthodox, but so is the path I had to take to get here. I really think I've found my calling in mathematics (even though it's taken me over a decade to get here). If anybody has some advice for me or my "auditing for a year + destroying the qualifiers" strategy of obtaining PhD candidacy ... I'd love to hear any thoughts.
Well, I hope it was somehow entertaining to read this. There are myriad ways of achieving any of your goals. I'm just one of many strange stories out there of how people have gotten to wherever they're headed.