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Social life and Physics/Mathematics?

  1. Dec 17, 2006 #1
    I am an undergraduate student majoring Math/Physics. Well, basically, I am very much into learning so I think about Math/Physics all the time. Even on Friday and Weekends, I usually stay at home and study. One of my friends tells me to go out and have some fun, but I simply do not know how or what he means by fun. Should I just go see a movie? or just chill out at some random place? Well, the point is, I simply do not find socializing and doing nothing very enjoyable.

    It seems that not many people have the same interest as I do, and as a result, I am often isolated from my classmates--not because they don't like me, but simply because I do not know how to approach them or start a discussion. Basically, I do not have many friends who I can talk to and socialize with.

    So, does anyone else have similar experience? or do I have some sort of problems?
     
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  3. Dec 17, 2006 #2

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    How about "Hey, anybody wanna go to the movies Friday night?"

    Won't kill you to take one night off.
     
  4. Dec 17, 2006 #3

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    Yes, I think there are people who have similar experiences, I am one of them. If you are like me then I imagine you derive enjoyment from your work. You therefore don't seek to escape it.

    I'll just say that trying to be someone you aren't is probably not the best thing to do. However, I don't mean to imply that what we are doesn't change over time, nor that what you are is what I or someone else says you are.

    If you like different things then so be it; do different things. I wouldn't say you have a problem, although some people are quick to say that people who are abnormal have a disorder or have problems or whatever. However, if you realise that they only say that because they are different and they want to be right, it shouldn't worry you too much.

    To them, you are the 'other': different and therefore mysterious. Just learn to be your unique self.
     
  5. Dec 17, 2006 #4
    I recommend smoking a bowl and watching a movie. You don't have to go out to take a break.
     
  6. Dec 17, 2006 #5

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    I wouldn't start smoking.
     
  7. Dec 17, 2006 #6

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  8. Dec 17, 2006 #7
    yeah even if you love your work you should go out and have fun on occasion, out of curiosity what school do you go to? alot of schools have different atmospheres and different ideas of what fun is. For instance fun at MIT might involve doing some crazy project, while fun at a big state school might mean going out and getting piss drunk with people you don't even know.

    while to me the latter is something that i have to do a few times a year, but my favorite friday night is one where people get really relaxed (maybe mildly drunk) and start talking about weighty subjects such as international politics and science.

    or even just late night relaxed fun at a diner or something, I'm a big fan of any late night conversation.
     
  9. Dec 17, 2006 #8
    I'm not at any Ivy league school... Just an above average college. Plus, I wouldn't consider myself as a genius... I just don't really like the usual things that average people do.

    To be honest, I've never had a girl friend, never really chilled with friends on a Friday night, never really had a party with others...

    verty, I'm glad that we share similar experiences. Yes, I do tend to enjoy "working", I guess, because a lot of times when I find myself doing nothing, I feel bad. I felt that I could've done more, learnt more and knew more. For example, before checking out this forum, I was sitting on my sofa watching TV, then I felt like, "heck, the TV is boring, why not solve that problem that I didn't solve before" ... then I started to think about magnetic moment and Coriolis Force...

    Anyway, I do spend times with my family and I do watch TV and play computer games sometimes.

    Also, when I attempt to talk to others, I can't really think of anything to say, except maybe Math/Physics. Discussions with my friends usually involve math problems, physics or theorems that one of us might have read over somewhere, or academics.
     
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  10. Dec 17, 2006 #9
    The key is to find ways to combine your interests with social outings. For instance, I have friends show enjoy playing chess, go, set, and mao (where we often make up math-related rules), so even when I'm playing games I'm still developing my mind.
     
  11. Dec 17, 2006 #10

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    If you're at a university, you have a million different social outlets minutes away. Look into some of the student clubs and organizations -- you can find people, interested in just about anything, who are also looking for friends just like you.

    - Warren
     
  12. Dec 17, 2006 #11

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    I agree.. at my university there are clubs for more or less any passtime you could possibly imagine. You always have the opportunity to turn up at the meetings, even if you've never done anything like it before! Find out about clubs, and just turn up!
     
  13. Dec 17, 2006 #12
    Sometimes taking time off improves your grades. I was getting a C in a Physical Chem class once so I said what the heck and went mountain climbing the day before the final. Got a perfect on the final and an A in the class. I also took a calc final the same day and got a 97.5% and an A in that class.
     
  14. Dec 17, 2006 #13
    Tim you're not the only person that has never been to a party or had a date in college. Along with that, I've barely even made any friends. Aside from programming assignments or studying, I usually will just read, be on my computer, or mess with my electronic equipment. The only thing that comes close to being social that I do is play basketball which is weird I know cause I'm not a sports person at all but I sort of like playing basketball. However I hate/dislike the people that you encounter in that area.
     
  15. Dec 17, 2006 #14
    Thats sort of dangerous advice to give. I'm pretty sure studying for a test is usually better than not studying. Maybe I'm wrong
     
  16. Dec 17, 2006 #15

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    thats horse merde not studying lowers your grade 99 times out of 100.
     
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  17. Dec 18, 2006 #16

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    I think a good social life is essential for personal happiness. Of course the level of your social level comes with preference, but having none can't be good.

    Of course you can be happy without any social life, but it isn't the ultimate happiness you can achieve. Basically try having a little bit of a social life, and after some time, you will see that you feel better. That's what I believe anyways. I'm sure many people do, and Aristotle is one of them.
     
  18. Dec 18, 2006 #17
    Tim, I am just like you except possibly more antisocial because I actually want to be this way. I often refuse to socialise although I admit it is not very healthy but its just how things have turned out. It could also be in the genes.
     
  19. Dec 18, 2006 #18

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    Exercise helps focus the mind - if you take time of to go for a run or to play a competitive sport, you'll find your mind much more focused when you return to the study. Also, going down the pub to relax and the end of the day helps too :smile:

    Horses for courses tho', innit.

    Some people like to study excessively hard - some find it easier to learn in a more relaxed way.

    For me - my missus is an English teacher - she has no idea of the maths I do, so we don't discuss it after work hours. Plus, when I was studying I played loads of sports - basketball, football (soccer), volleyball, tennis...
     
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  20. Dec 18, 2006 #19
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    I think that all smart guys are "different" in one sense.
    However i think that even though you enjoy studying( and i am sure like you) , you ought to find some people to have other activities .
    I mean it may just widen your horizon and increase your experience in life .
    However even if you do not do that today you will feel the need to do it one day...
    My meaning is that as we seek the truth about harmony in the world and thinghs in science are beautiful, you have things in life that are equally beautiful and that you should experience...for like feynman said "experiment is the ultimate validity test".
     
  21. Dec 18, 2006 #20
    If you think things like watching movies and conversing with random people, is pointless, then maybe you should find other mathematicians or physicists in your school and have intellectual discussions with them.
     
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