Solve my life changing decision Family vs Ambition

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Start date Jun 10, 2009
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A New Zealand resident has been offered a prestigious PhD position in the UK, but faces strong opposition from family, particularly a father concerned about the distance, costs, and family responsibilities. The individual has worked hard for five years to achieve this opportunity, but feels torn between pursuing their academic ambitions and supporting their family, which includes a critically ill mother and a brother with uncertain career prospects. The discussion emphasizes the importance of independence and personal growth, suggesting that the individual should prioritize their own future while also considering family dynamics. Many contributors argue that pursuing the PhD is a vital step for long-term career prospects and financial stability, and that the family should adapt to the situation rather than hinder the individual's aspirations. The conversation also touches on the emotional complexities of leaving a sick parent and the potential for regret if the opportunity is missed. Overall, the consensus leans towards encouraging the individual to accept the PhD offer while maintaining communication with family.

Jun 11, 2009

Cyrus

n0_3sc said:

I have 'stepped up' these last 3 years, where I worked to help contribute. I did my share and would've continued having not been offered a once in a lifetime opportunity. Deferring my decision by 'a year' wouldn't help anything. I would just be delaying my own progress in life for something that is inevitable.

Well I had a chat with them, and they're at the point where they've 'opened' up their minds a little. That is, I don't repetitively hear the same answers I mentioned in the start of this thread. But there still is a lot of doubt...a bit more work is needed...

That's a good sign, and I hope your mother gets well.