I would like to add to the discussion of distance versus coordinate difference described recently in this thread, motivating just how ambiguous it is to talk about distance to a BH.
As with so many GR questions, it helps to look at SR first. There are, in fact, many ambiguities defining distance in SR.
Consider first, a definition of distance between two timelike world lines, W1 and W2. Consider the problem only in one plane, for simplicity. Consider using proper distance computed along a spacelike geodesic 4-orthogonal to one W1 at some point P1. This definition corresponds physically to a ruler distance measured in a global inertial frame in which W1 happens to be at rest at P1.
As long as W1 and W2 are both inertial, this definition seems fine - no unexpected anomalies whether you measure from W1 or W2 (though the results are typically different for each choice). However, simply adding the feature W1 is performing a small amplitude, slow zig zag, and that W2 is very far away (as defined by the definition), you can have the bizarre result that each event on W2 is used as the end point for multiple different points on the history of W1 (using W1 as the reference for the definition).
Note that this definition corresponds to the one
@Orodruin proposed, and that in the case of Schwarzschild geometry, it has the anomaly that distances for all times along a stationary world line are computed to the same point on the horizon history, and further, that this horizon event does not even exist for a BH resulting from collapse (rather than an idealized eternal one).
Another issue with this definition (at least as used in a single plane) is that the reference world line cannot be light like. That is, distance
from a lightlike world line cannot be defined at all, because there are no spacelike othogonals.
An alternative is to try to define distance between an event and a world line. One simple geometric idea has similar issues to the prior defintion: proper distance along a spacelike geodesic from an event to a world line 4-orthogonal to the world line at intersection. In particular, this cannot be defined at all for distance to a light like world line if the light is moving towards or away from the point in a plane defined by the light and the point. Also, a point can have multiple distances to a non-inertial world line, per this definition.
A third definition sometimes used for a point to a world line is the maximum proper distance over spacelike geodesics connecting the point and the world line. This avoids several anomalies of the prior definitions while agreeing with them for simple cases. It helps to work a simple example to see how maximum is what you really want. However, for a point to a light like world line (in x-t plane, for example) the set of spacelike geodesic distances span 0 to inifnity. Thus, the point is considered to be infinitely far away.
For these reasons, I consider the distance from a BH horizon to be fundamentally undefinable by simple geometric definitions.
@Ibix definition may coincide in result with one of the defintions above, but it doesn't use a simple geometric definition. Instead, it has the limitation that it only makes sense for stationary observers in a stationary geometry. It would be at least a little surprising to me if it coincides with
@Orodruin's because it would imply that the strings lowered and returned from any event along a stantionary world line approach the same event on the horizon's history.