Ok, reporting back. Zettili looks really good, but again it might be a little too presumptuous for me. I can see now that my math training was very practical and not rigorous and formal. I have had the requisite three semesters of calculus almost 20 years ago now, and I have had a very feeble introduction to differential equations. After my community college experience I transferred to UCR where I earned my bachelors in physics. I did fine in classical, but that was the only core class I did ok in. However, QM, E&M, EM Radiation, Stat Mech I gave up, and did almost no problems from the problem sets. At that point I should have carved out the time to fill in the missing holes, but discouragement was the reigning emotion. The profs tended to be merciful and give you an obligory C if you just show up for everything. All of the other physics courses that did not require the math rigor of the aforementioned courses, and I did fairly well in them.
Fast forward to 2014. I decide to brush up and cover ground that I missed as an undergrad. Math was my first priority. Mary Boas' Methods was recommended, and I have been plowing through her text since Febuary doing most of the problems in the set. Doing quite well with though the going is slow. After finishing her 100 pages of linear algebra (which I have never taken before) I started to peek ahead at some QM, and found that I could actually begin to understand it. It definitely was time for a break from that math book. In the past two weeks I have done more QM problems than I have ever done as an undergrad -- with the added bonus of actually mostly understanding what I am doing. Sorry for all of the detail, but I thought it necessary to provide a basis for where I am at mathematically speaking.
I mostly understand the physics involved, but some of this QM math is really strange to me. However, I am resolved to learn it no matter how far back I have to go to build the correct foundation to get comfortable with the math that is involved. I will take a look at Ballentine today, and it does look less presumptuous in the opening math section, but maybe I will need a course that teaches me real/complex analysis and/or whatever folks learn things related to Hilbert space and other abstract generalized vector stuff. Also, most of the mathy/proofy statements here that are not a part of just practically doing lower division fairly straight forward physics stuff is *mostly* lost on me.
Thanks for your time,
Regards,
Chris