I thought I'd have a shot at some Minkowski diagrams, which may be helpful. I'm restricting motion to one dimension, but this is actually completely general for intersecting inertial worldlines, since in either one's rest frame we can simply define the x direction as "##\pm## the direction in which the other guy is moving". So these diagrams are all drawn in the hyperplane
@etotheipi shaded in
#30.
So we have two observers, red and blue. Here's a Minkowski diagram in red's frame - red's worldline is straight up the page and blue's is slanted because they're doing 0.6c.
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Red can drop a perpendicular to the x-axis and draw blue's three-velocity, the heavy dotted blue line. This is what red calls "blue's velocity through space", so it must be a vector in the spatial direction. Blue's four-velocity is, of course, parallel to blue's worldline.
(Apologies that there's no arrowhead on the three-velocity - I didn't add the capability to draw arrowheads when I wrote my Minkowski diagram software.)
Now we can do the same thing in blue's frame:
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Aside from the colours, this is an exact mirror image of the first diagram. This is the "reciprocity" between the red and blue's three-velocities that we've been talking about.
But the complexity comes in if we draw what red called "blue's velocity through space" on the diagram above:
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I've included red's axes and the dropped perpendicular and three-velocity from the first diagram. And here we can see the problem with comparing three-velocities in different frames - three velocities in the red frame lie along the red spatial axis and three-velocities in the blue frame lie along the blue spatial axis. You can't compare them because they lie in different spatial planes. You can "promote" them to four-vectors (which I have kind of implicitly done by drawing them both on one diagram here), and then you can compare them, but they aren't parallel and boosting the blue dotted line to be parallel to the blue axis would not yield blue's three velocity in this frame (a problem
@vanhees71 alluded to in
#35).
So, the "reciprocity" of the three-velocities each observer assigns to the other in their respective rest frames just means that we can draw the first two Minkowski diagrams and they are mirror-symmetric. It follows from the symmetry of the situation - it must be true unless there's some difference between the red and blue observers, and there isn't. However, the three velocities don't lie in the same space and can't be meaningfully compared as vectors - you are, of course, free to compare their magnitudes.
I hope that's helpful, anyway.