A good book for an engineer's perspective is "Skunk Works" by its director Ben Rich. It cronicles the development of stealth.
Stealth is predominantly based on geometry. The concept came from a Russian scientist who derived from Maxwell's equations a method for calculating the reflectivity of a flat panel. A Lockheed engineer read the paper and developed software for calculating radar cross sections of objects composed entirely of triangles. Hence, the F-117's shape.
The B-2 uses similar software, but more powerful computers means more complex shapes. Plus, the skin in some places is transparent, with faceted surfaces underneath.
Absorption is important, but not anywhere near as important as geometry.
To get into it, electrical engineering, physics, computers, materials, all good fields of study.