Let's try a gross oversimplification:::
Think for a moment of a compass rose - North, East, South and West.
One could think of South as Negative North, and West as Negative East.
So the negative sign just helps us define something about the capacitor's particular type of impedance.
I know, that sounds crazy - but bear with me-----
What's impedance?
Opposition to current flow.
Impedance comes in three flavors:
Resistive, which converts the energy of the flowing current into heat which leaves the circuit;
Inductive, which stores the energy of the flowing current in a magnetic field for later release back into the circuit;
Capacitive, which stores the energy of the flowing current in an electric field for later release back into the circuit.
Now, Inductive and Capacitive impedance are both called Reactive because they both keep the energy in electromagnetic form where it can be recovered, unlike resistive which turns it into heat. In other words there'll be a RE-coverable-ACTIon.
It so happens that when you start dealing with sine waves, you can graph impedances as if on a map- Resistive points North-South, reactive points East-West. So inductive and capacitive have opposite sign, one is east the other west.
Resistive can also have a negative sign, but negative resistance is so rare we don't often think of it except in odd devices like tunnel diodes and thyratrons..
But capacitive and inductive are very real in everyday life.
Earlier posts gave good descriptions of the arithmetic, i tried to go back another step, for my pea-brain has to 'feel' something before it'll believe the math..
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It is VERY IMPORTANT that you work all your homework problems and become fluent in vector notation, rotating phasors and that complex operator-j arithmetic.
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