Where Can Socially Awkward Men Find Compatible Partners?

[turbo]

You don't need to spy on people's laundry or buy an animal to

You certainly don't have to buy an animal. In college, I was renting a house in Orono when a Broadway technical director and his family were living across the street. He'd leave on Sunday and come back on Thursday night (at the earliest), and his wife and kids were too busy and self-absorbed, so I'd just "kidnap" Bilbo when I wanted to get out for exercise. He was a very energetic but obedient Springer, and we would take long walks together. I'd just go out into the street and ask him if he wanted to walk, and he'd be glued to me. He loved walking the rail-line between Orono (we lived at the North end of the Stillwater trestle) and the James River paper mill in Old Town. He loved the park, too, but locating and flushing birds and small animals got him all worked up, so I tried to give him lots of those opportunities.

 

[DanP]

Maybe technically. Not my thing; but you get the idea.

Yes, I got the technicality =)

I'm usually a serious person in general. Unless I'm really comfortable with someone.

Hence the trick is to be comfortable with as many ppl as you can. And explore :P

 

[Pyrrhus]

Many ways, I meet my female neighbors by doing laundry or friendly talk in the elevator. I also meet girls at bars/clubs/stores, sometimes. Fellow female classmate or through other male classmates. Sometimes, girls meet me (about 2 weeks ago a fellow female classmate asked me out). Where else? ah recently, I've been getting back in touch with my roots, and I've been going to dance studios 1 per week to dance some salsa, bachata and merengue. You can meet a lot of girls in dance studios or salsa clubs.

In other words, meet girls by going outside of your place, and sometimes out of your bubble (comfort zone). Now, creating romantic links to the girls you meet is another topic.

Oh, some good advice before I forget. The first time you meet a girl (when you are asking her out to get together), remember to NOT CANCEL, and ALWAYS SHOW UP. It sounds stupid and obvious, but first impressions are important. Sometimes, I forget that rule as well. Also, REJECTION is normal, but don't always assume she rejected you. On rejection is better to be on the safe side, ask her out about 3-4 times spread out during the week and different days, and observe if she makes any effort to follow up. Remember, if she's interested, she'll MAKE TIME FOR YOU. Also keeping contact with the girl is good, text her or call her once in a while. Don't be too clingy. I like to keep it unpredictable. I keep unpredictable the asking her out too (this can be problematic for the rigid schedule girls). I like playing the whole thing by ear.

 

[physeven]

yes this happened to me scores of times! there are NO girls in any of my classes, except my electives which i barely attend, and i never ever have a chance to meet a proper woman. guess physics is my woman (cheesy comment)

 

[Pyrrhus]

yes this happened to me scores of times! there are NO girls in any of my classes, except my electives which i barely attend, and i never ever have a chance to meet a proper woman. guess physics is my woman (cheesy comment)

Find women elsewhere!, there are tons of women. Find where they agglomerate and go there. Try some dancing places, even if you don't like dancing. It can be a great tool to meet women. You know how many salsa clubs there are?

An alternative not requiring any learning is bring a book to a public place where women gather, and start conversations and see where they lead.

 

[i_wish_i_was_smart]

"How do you actually meet women?"


In a word: WORK. You meet people at work. And I think that makes for better relationships also (you have some interest in common to start out with). So unless a company has issues with that--and it could jeopardize your career--I would suggest looking for women at work.

dont **** where you eat

in my experience everyone that I've seen dating someone from work created tension in the work place when they were together and definitely after they broke it off, a few were so bad one of the two would either quit or ask for a transfer
its just bad math