Why are parents putting so much pressure on their kids?

Thread starter Evo
Start date Aug 21, 2005
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A tragic incident involving a teenage girl who allegedly stabbed her mother has sparked a heated discussion about parental pressure and youth behavior. The girl, described as intelligent but troubled, had a history of drug use and was known to party excessively. Her strict upbringing and the expectations placed on her are questioned, with many suggesting that such pressure may contribute to rebellious behavior and substance abuse. Participants in the discussion explore whether the girl's actions stemmed from mental health issues exacerbated by her environment or if they were simply a result of poor choices. There is a consensus that the mixed messages from parents and society, combined with a lack of effective communication, can lead to serious consequences for teenagers. The conversation also touches on the challenges of parenting in today's media-saturated culture, where children face immense external pressures. Ultimately, the need for understanding and connection between parents and children is emphasized as crucial for preventing such tragedies.

Aug 23, 2005

Evo

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Moonbear said:

In contrast, there were kids whose parents were very lax about rules, they could stay out as late as they wanted, go where they wanted, when they wanted, etc. Their parents wanted to be the "cool" parents, but in reality, the kids felt neglected and unloved. Those kids were the ones who got into all sorts of trouble. It doesn't mean they all turned out to be bad people, a lot turned themselves around when they got older and became independent, they just got there a lot slower than the kids who had parents who let them know they cared about them.

I had no rules and no restrictions growing up. I was the happiest, most loved kid of any I knew, made straight A's, never got into trouble. I raised both of my girls the same way and they are great.

I do see the parents of some of my daughter's friends as absolutely unreasonable tyrants that expect perfection from their kids, emotionally abusing them and giving them inferiority complexes. I try to help heal some of the damage their parents have inflicted upon them by recognizing their achievements and giving them positive reinforcement, something they don't get from their own parents. :devil: