And now, with more thought, I question your whole justification. Independent of any coordinate basis, there is no notion of vector derivative without a connection. Otherwise there is no way to compare or subract vectors at different points, even along a given curve, because the vectors are in different tangent spaces - and the connection is what maps between tangent spaces of nearby points. Given this need for connection to even define a vector derivative, it is confusing to use an ordinary derivative symbol for this.
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