Ontophile said:
Why is a magnetic field "a field-of-force in space" while a gravitiational field is "not a field in space, but a curvature of space itself"? Why can't we describe and explain EM repulsion and attraction the way we explain gravitational attraction? Why don't we say that the presence of a charge distorts the space around it the way we say that the presence of mass distorts the space around it? Why can't an Alcubierre drive work just as well (in theory) by using the EM force, as it would (in theory) but using gravity?
One of the first clues about the curvature of space and space-time (the two are related, but not identical, topics) is gravitational time dilation.
At the time it was proposed, it was hard to observe, but experiments soon confirmed it. Nowadays, it's something that's hard to avoid, and something that has to be routinely dealt with for accurate timekeeping.
The gist of the matter is, that if you have a clock at a lower gravitational potential, it ticks more slowly, as seen by static observers comparing the clocks via static paths with a constant propagation delay.
Furthermore, if you compare the effects of gravitational potential to EM potential by looking at a clock at a lower electromagnetic potential, the EM potential doesn't have any observable effect on how fast it ticks. This makes gravity somehow different than E&M. (Actually, one does expects the electromagnetic potential to have additional gravitational effects, but not only are the effects small, they are due to the tiny gravity caused by the EM field, rather than directly by the EM field itself).
The relationship of this to curvature isn't evident, until you start trying to draw parallelograms on a space-time diagram. Then you realize that somehow you've got a parallelogram where opposite sides of the parallelogram (the time sides, this is a space-time diagram) are parallel, but the lengths are different (as seen by the time dilation). This strongly suggest curvature, as Euclidean parallelograms have opposite sides of equal lengths.