Why do women become so silly when they have a boyfriend yet?

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The discussion centers around perceptions of women in relationships and the behavior of both genders in social interactions. Participants express frustration with women who seem overly protective or defensive when approached by men, often interpreting friendly interactions as flirtation. There is a belief that some women act as if they are the center of attention and expect men to seek their approval before engaging in conversation. The conversation also touches on the jealousy exhibited by boyfriends and the notion that women may enjoy the attention of multiple men, even while in relationships. Some contributors argue that both men and women exhibit irrational behaviors, leading to misunderstandings. The discussion concludes with a humorous take on the extremes of dating dynamics, highlighting the challenges of navigating relationships and social cues.
  • #51
franznietzsche said:
And those people are even allowed to think about suing. His parents should go join him in jumping. They should try the grand canyon next.

I mean honestly.
The SUE the garage holder for having a kid stupid enough to jump between buildings? I hope that is just for setting up a fence and not for any damages.
 
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  • #52
Monique said:
The SUE the garage holder for having a kid stupid enough to jump between buildings? I hope that is just for setting up a fence and not for any damages.


In this country, I'm sure they expect damages.

And either way, its not like there was nothing there. There was a fence there, most likely intended to keep todlers and small children who wouldn't know better safe. Not to stop morons from jumping. That is not their responsibility.
 
  • #53
cronxeh said:
Here is what I think happened:

*Clasius approaches a busty female in her 20's*
-"Hey gorgeous, I couldn't help to notice the supersymmetry in your body, I'm not interested I just like this supersymmetry you know.."
*SLAP*
-"Hey hey that hurt. Why are you so.. what's eh the word I look for.. uh.. why are you so tense!*
[Enter Female's Boyfriend]
*Private chat between Female's Boyfriend and Female*
*Clasius gets knocked out*

--2 hours later, at home, on the computer--
"Man.. that girl was supersymmetric.. got to post on PF and tell everyone.. ow.. my head.."



That's blatantly what happened!
 
  • #54
franznietzsche said:
In this country, I'm sure they expect damages.

And either way, its not like there was nothing there. There was a fence there, most likely intended to keep todlers and small children who wouldn't know better safe. Not to stop morons from jumping. That is not their responsibility.
Yeah, in this country personal responsibility has gone out the window. Its so bizarre that people can sue, much less win for things like that. If I'm stupid, its your fault for allowing it.
 
  • #55
franznietzsche said:
Here is a perfect example of why i hate humanity:

http://www.local6.com/money/4239256/detail.html

I mean seriously, that kid should have died, and for the sake of the quality of the human genetic pool, deserved to. Darwin award material flat-out.

And those people are even allowed to think about suing. His parents should go join him in jumping. They should try the grand canyon next.

I mean honestly.
From the linked story said:
Tim Bargfrede told Local 6 News that he was following friends when he attempted to garage jump and did not make it to the other side. Bargfrede fell six stories and was knocked unconscious on impact.
Thank God he fell on his head, which is extremely thick, or else he could have been badly hurt.
 
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  • #56
Evo said:
Are you flirting with them or being careful to only present yourself as showing no interest, other than a friend?

It makes sense if they think you are flirting that they let you know they are faithful to their boyfriends and not interested in flirting. I think you are just flirtatious by nature and don't necessarily mean anything by it. :-p They may not realize that.

Are you looking into their eyes or into their cleavage when you talk to them? If a guy can't make or sustain eye contact with me, it's a pretty good indication of what he's thinking, no matter what he says. :wink:

Maybe your opinion as a woman is very valuable for me.

I am not looking at her cleavage each time I talk with her (I really don't know what "cleavage" means and I don't feel like to take the dictionary, but I can imagine it).

There are two opposite behaviors we can show when we come across with one of these women:

1.-You show no sexual interest at all, trying not to mean you're sexually attracted to her. Consequence: she damn you because you are too stupid for not realising she is so pretty. Therefore, not flirting with her is a wrong technique.

2.-You show sexual interest, so that she (who has a boyfriend yet) will play with you because women want to have at least one man flying around her. Their life wouldn't be the same with that stupid man. Once you get bored of the game, they will mean that she needn't any more company and probably they will call you "un pesao" or "un plasta" as it is said here.

It can be concluded that both strategies are condemned to failure.
 
  • #57
Clausius2 said:
Maybe your opinion as a woman is very valuable for me.

I am not looking at her cleavage each time I talk with her (I really don't know what "cleavage" means and I don't feel like to take the dictionary, but I can imagine it).

There are two opposite behaviors we can show when we come across with one of these women:

1.-You show no sexual interest at all, trying not to mean you're sexually attracted to her. Consequence: she damn you because you are too stupid for not realising she is so pretty. Therefore, not flirting with her is a wrong technique.

2.-You show sexual interest, so that she (who has a boyfriend yet) will play with you because women want to have at least one man flying around her. Their life wouldn't be the same with that stupid man. Once you get bored of the game, they will mean that she needn't any more company and probably they will call you "un pesao" or "un plasta" as it is said here.

It can be concluded that both strategies are condemned to failure.
Ah poor Clausius, you just can't win. :wink: :smile:
 
  • #58
Moonbear said:
Yeah, I'm not quite understanding that. If you're hitting on women with boyfriends, why are you getting upset when they remind you they have boyfriends and aren't available? And if they have boyfriends and would go out with you anyway, why would you want them? :confused:

Franz has answered you yet.

Have you ever talked with a girl you think she feels interested on you although she have a boyfriend? The game goes like this:

-You think: Maybe despites she have a boyfriend she is not happy with him.

-She thinks: Hey!, if I mean I am interested on this guy, perhaps he will be very kind with me and these sort of things that women need to have been said every day.

And the game keeps on going but the fact she is probably deceiving you every time.
 
  • #59
cronxeh said:
Here is what I think happened:

*Clasius approaches a busty female in her 20's*
-"Hey gorgeous, I couldn't help to notice the supersymmetry in your body, I'm not interested I just like this supersymmetry you know.."
*SLAP*
-"Hey hey that hurt. Why are you so.. what's eh the word I look for.. uh.. why are you so tense!*
[Enter Female's Boyfriend]
*Private chat between Female's Boyfriend and Female*
*Clasius gets knocked out*

--2 hours later, at home, on the computer--
"Man.. that girl was supersymmetric.. got to post on PF and tell everyone.. ow.. my head.."

:smile: :smile: :smile:
I have been laughing at this some time...
 
  • #60
In my experience, Clausius2, a lot of times what guys percieve as flirting, girls think is just being nice. At the same time, though, girls are more likely to flirt with guys they aren't interested in (except as friends) than guys are. Its just something you have to get used to.
 
  • #61
russ_watters said:
In my experience, Clausius2, a lot of times what guys percieve as flirting, girls think is just being nice.

That is the cruelty I was referring to. NICE? I am not nice with every body!. I recognise I have failed some times because of that misunderstood. But the fact is we don't go everywhere being nice. Are you nice with your boss? Are you nice with me? Are you nice with your neighbor? Are you nice with the postman? Are you nice with every classmates? Answer: I am not. That is just because man don't go over there being nice except with our friends (and this doesn't happen always).

Being a woman, a pretty woman, and being so nice with men over there has only one word: cruelty and lack of humanity and humbleness.

Maybe FranzNietzsche is able to understand this words in spanish and translate them, because I am unable:

"Ellas son amables sólo para jodernos la existencia."
 
  • #62
Clausius, I AM nice with my boss, with you, with my neighbour, with my postman, and all my classmates!

Perhaps this is why they don't take to it too well. You're horrible to your postman and then nice to a random girl! If I was a girl, I'd be there sticking up for the postman.
 
  • #63
I'm only not nice to people I actively dislike. And even then only if I have a specific reason at the time. My political debating notwithstanding (and except online, I generally only debate people I know - there is less chance of misunderstanding and hostility), I'm pretty nonconfrontational.
 
  • #64
Clausius2 said:
I am not looking at her cleavage each time I talk with her (I really don't know what "cleavage" means and I don't feel like to take the dictionary, but I can imagine it).
I can imagine it too. :-p

Why don't you show him what cleavage is Evo? :bugeye: :biggrin:
 
  • #65
Clausius2 said:
Maybe your opinion as a woman is very valuable for me.

I am not looking at her cleavage each time I talk with her (I really don't know what "cleavage" means and I don't feel like to take the dictionary, but I can imagine it).

There are two opposite behaviors we can show when we come across with one of these women:

1.-You show no sexual interest at all, trying not to mean you're sexually attracted to her. Consequence: she damn you because you are too stupid for not realising she is so pretty. Therefore, not flirting with her is a wrong technique.

2.-You show sexual interest, so that she (who has a boyfriend yet) will play with you because women want to have at least one man flying around her. Their life wouldn't be the same with that stupid man. Once you get bored of the game, they will mean that she needn't any more company and probably they will call you "un pesao" or "un plasta" as it is said here.

It can be concluded that both strategies are condemned to failure.
There is a secret 3rd super strategy you can use, it goes like this:

3.-You show lots of sexual interest, beat up her boyfriend with a baseball bat, hump her leg during classes, slip love letters under her door, walk her to and from work every day, run over that guy that kicked her dog with your dodge carrivan, ect., result: get arrested for manslaughter and assualt, get a restraining order slapped on you and shipped off to an insane asylum... What? You were expecting positive results? These are women man, give it up.
 
  • #66
so THATS why we have so many people in US prisons..

tsk tsk.. it was Canadians!
 
  • #67
Artman said:
Why don't you show him what cleavage is Evo? :bugeye: :biggrin:

Hey, if ANYONE round here's showing any cleavage, it's going to be ME!
 
  • #68
russ_watters said:
In my experience, Clausius2, a lot of times what guys percieve as flirting, girls think is just being nice. At the same time, though, girls are more likely to flirt with guys they aren't interested in (except as friends) than guys are. Its just something you have to get used to.

Being a bit flirty myself, I have to agree. I've been around guys I was not interested at all in a romantic way (though perhaps in a friendly way) and didn't realize I was even being flirtatious, just thought I was having fun joking around. But then when I am intentionally flirting with a guy who I'm interested in, it used to be that if they didn't notice, I'd take it that they weren't interested and just move on; now I realize some guys just don't notice until you outright tell them (and if they really aren't interested and say so, then it's all unambiguous and much easier on everyone).

Then again, sometimes women aren't flirting at all, but a guy who really is attracted to them sees everything they do as flirting because they are looking with blinders on. I ran into this problem with the janitor at work. Apparently not many people talk to him, so he took something as simple as me saying hi and asking how he is to be flirting. And of course his behavior changed based on that and I ended up thinking for a while he was the creepiest guy I ever met.

Anyway, it would all be so easy if people could get over their hang-ups and just tell each other outright when they're interested or not. :biggrin: Though, I still don't understand getting upset worrying about women who already have boyfriends. If they constantly need to be the center of attention and nothing you do with them is right, then they are what we call "high maintenance." More trouble than it's worth.
 
  • #69
I think it would be a lot easier if we all had asses that glowed red. That would be unambiguous. :smile:
 
  • #70
Clausius2 said:
That is the cruelty I was referring to. NICE? I am not nice with every body!. I recognise I have failed some times because of that misunderstood. But the fact is we don't go everywhere being nice. Are you nice with your boss? Are you nice with me? Are you nice with your neighbor? Are you nice with the postman? Are you nice with every classmates? Answer: I am not. That is just because man don't go over there being nice except with our friends (and this doesn't happen always).

:bugeye: You think not being nice to anyone but your friends is going to be attractive to women? If I see a guy being a jerk to everyone, hanging around just his cluster of buddies, to me he looks like the obnoxious high school bully, and yeah, I'm going to be on the defensive as soon as he walks up to me.

The guys who attract women, at least the nice women, are the ones who can be friendly with everyone. When it comes to romance, forget that old myth that opposites attract; it's really like attracts like. If someone's a jerk, he's going to attract jerks, and if someone's nice, he's going to find himself surrounded by nice people.
 
  • #71
Wont it be more of a 'if someone's nice, he'll be surrounded by everyone' :)
 
  • #72
Moonbear said:
:bugeye: You think not being nice to anyone but your friends is going to be attractive to women? If I see a guy being a jerk to everyone, hanging around just his cluster of buddies, to me he looks like the obnoxious high school bully, and yeah, I'm going to be on the defensive as soon as he walks up to me.

Yet all the time at school I see these jerks with girlfriends and I don't understand it... its a downward cycle. They break up with the jerk only to date another one soon therafter until they give up on men and become lesbian :-p (probably exaggerating a little...)

Moonbear said:
The guys who attract women, at least the nice women, are the ones who can be friendly with everyone. When it comes to romance, forget that old myth that opposites attract; it's really like attracts like. If someone's a jerk, he's going to attract jerks, and if someone's nice, he's going to find himself surrounded by nice people.

I have noticed this (even in my own behavior). I don't get along with those people... even if I had to. Then again, in this general geographical area there aren't very many nice people, most are jerks. :frown:
 
  • #73
motai said:
Yet all the time at school I see these jerks with girlfriends and I don't understand it... its a downward cycle. They break up with the jerk only to date another one soon therafter until they give up on men and become lesbian :-p (probably exaggerating a little...)

They find girlfriends, but those girls/women are the same as they are, obnoxious to everyone but their little circle of friends, completely superficial, and looking for trophies, not relationships.
 
  • #74
Clausius2 said:
That is the cruelty I was referring to. NICE? I am not nice with every body!. I recognise I have failed some times because of that misunderstood. But the fact is we don't go everywhere being nice. Are you nice with your boss? Are you nice with me? Are you nice with your neighbor? Are you nice with the postman? Are you nice with every classmates? Answer: I am not. That is just because man don't go over there being nice except with our friends (and this doesn't happen always).

Being a woman, a pretty woman, and being so nice with men over there has only one word: cruelty and lack of humanity and humbleness.

Maybe FranzNietzsche is able to understand this words in spanish and translate them, because I am unable:

"Ellas son amables sólo para jodernos la existencia."

Hmm, it can't be translated literally, but something along the lines of 'women are only nice for the sake of screwing with us'. The 'la existencia' at the end is kinda throwing me, i know what it means by itself, I'm just not sure in context.

Moonbear said:
But then when I am intentionally flirting with a guy who I'm interested in, it used to be that if they didn't notice, I'd take it that they weren't interested and just move on; now I realize some guys just don't notice until you outright tell them (and if they really aren't interested and say so, then it's all unambiguous and much easier on everyone).

You see that is actually your own fault for being generally flirtatious in the first place. ONce the guy gets used to the idea of it not meaning anything, that's just what he's always going to assume.
 
  • #75
Smurf said:
There is a secret 3rd super strategy you can use, it goes like this:

3.-You show lots of sexual interest, beat up her boyfriend with a baseball bat, hump her leg during classes, slip love letters under her door, walk her to and from work every day, run over that guy that kicked her dog with your dodge carrivan, ect., result: get arrested for manslaughter and assualt, get a restraining order slapped on you and shipped off to an insane asylum... What? You were expecting positive results? These are women man, give it up.




:smile: :smile: :smile: :smile:

Or you do things my way, and never have these problems.
 
  • #76
Moonbear said:
They find girlfriends, but those girls/women are the same as they are, obnoxious to everyone but their little circle of friends, completely superficial, and looking for trophies, not relationships.

Yeah, its especially bad when those type of people drag me into their messed up world, try to get me to do things for them when obviously they have an ulterior agenda. Of course, I had no idea at the time that these people in particular were like this (they seemed friendly at first glance) until they insulted me, so I left. It was pretty obvious to me after 5 minutes of talking that it wasn't going to go well.
 
  • #77
Evo said:
Are you flirting with them or being careful to only present yourself as showing no interest, other than a friend?

If the girl is the least bit good-looking, then any guy that talks to her is interested. That's just he way men are. They have evolutionarily built-in urges that tell them to screw every attractive woman they come in contact with. The sooner women get over this the better. A man cannot control his desires, only his actions.
 
  • #78
Andromeda321 said:
Or you can go around with the t-shirt my one friend has that says across her chest "my eyes are up here!" with an arrow pointing upward...
Since I was like 8 or 9 I've always hated to look at someone's eyes when you are talking them or vice versa, I've always looked at slightly above breast level, since when. And that turned out to have slight problems, if I'm not going to look at their face, then I end up looking slightly under my point of gazing, I mean, its like 2 inches away! What can I say? Hair is ok too, but when I start out a few inches above breast level, its hard to leave.
 
  • #79
loseyourname said:
A man cannot control his desires, only his actions.


I beg to differ. With methodic, intentional self-brainwashing, you can reprogram yourself to desire whatever you'd prefer.

Its fun to experiment with.

For example, try convincing yourself that you believe in a different religion. Just over, and over, repeat various, tenets, ideas, aspects of said religion to yourself on a daily basis, repeatedly during the day. Over time your subconscious mind reprograms itself so that those beliefs become its first reaction if you are asked a question such as what your religion is.

Its a little tricky to pull off correctly, but the key is repetition, as well as what you repeating. Not just words, but images and ideas. If done correctly, you can brainwash yourself into believing anything you'd like about reality, religion, science, your desires, whatever.

Its really neat. Or maybe I'm just weird and like screwing with my head.
 
  • #80
Random thought, franz - once when I was a kid and bored at church I decided to pass the time by changing a habit: Ever notice that when you lace your fingers together, one hand is always on top? Well, through months of conscous effort (yeah, I'm fidgety), I was able to break the habit. Today it feels almost as natural to have my other hand on top. And of I got to bring my hands together quickly, my fingers won't automatically cross, they bump into each other.

Yeah, I like screwing with my own head too. Its good exercise.
 
  • #81
russ_watters said:
Random thought, franz - once when I was a kid and bored at church I decided to pass the time by changing a habit: Ever notice that when you lace your fingers together, one hand is always on top? Well, through months of conscous effort (yeah, I'm fidgety), I was able to break the habit. Today it feels almost as natural to have my other hand on top. And of I got to bring my hands together quickly, my fingers won't automatically cross, they bump into each other.

Yeah, I like screwing with my own head too. Its good exercise.

I've come to expect things like this from franz, but you? Then again, I can fully respect the idea of a kid being so bored at church he'd resort to seeing if he could lace his fingers differently. Hmm...just tried that...makes my pinky feel funny. :-p
 
  • #82
Moonbear said:
I've come to expect things like this from franz, but you? Then again, I can fully respect the idea of a kid being so bored at church he'd resort to seeing if he could lace his fingers differently. Hmm...just tried that...makes my pinky feel funny. :-p


Maybe its 'cause us conservatives need to be crazy together?
 
  • #83
franznietzsche said:
No, its all the italians on vacation :biggrin:

?
 
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  • #84
franznietzsche said:
Maybe its 'cause us conservatives need to be crazy together?

You mean you're not crazy enough on your own? :-p
 

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