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Simfish
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So I've been to social anxiety forums, Aspie forums, and depression forums. But I can't find anyone to relate to on them, since many people on these forums are over 22 and the ones who aren't tend not to be very academic.
The trick with finding friends as an aspiring astrophysicist is that they have to understand that you often don't have much time because you need to put intense amounts of hours into studying. So it's probably better if they share many of your interests or tendencies. I have a very high degree of respect for behavioral genetics, neuroscience, and computer science as well, so I can definitely be close to people in those fields.
I'm a college student right now but I don't like most clubs. In clubs, most people end up talking to their friends anyways, and I end up having no one to talk to. And beyond that, I'm just not a big fan of the way clubs are structured/organized (I have ADD so I zone out very quickly whenever there are lectures that don't follow written text). I know that some of you will be quick to accuse me of having a self-fulfilling prophecy, but ADD is one of the hardest conditions to control (I've done a much better job with controlling Asperger's - to the point that I don't even need to identify with that label anymore)
That, and there's a friendship problem anyways. It's extremely hard to find someone that you can "click" with. Lower-level friendships are okay too. But I'm incompatible with most of the people I meet (even for lower-level friendships) - it's incredibly hard to talk to anything with them (I can think about many possible topics but it takes a mind that's very "intuitive" on myers-briggs to actually have a real conversation with me). And then I just give up since I'm better off refocusing the effort towards preparing for grad school. I actually open myself up extremely quickly (especially on facebook) just in hopes that i could reduce the timesink from talking to new people (which usually doesn't work out).
The vast majority of my contacts come from the Internet. There, it's far easier to talk to people since they open up more quickly and since they're also not around their friends. Plus, they can stalk me on the Internet so that they could get more information about me before deciding to talk to me. And I might have found friends if only my school had a forum. But it doesn't have one and its IRC is dead
Normal people could potentially work but it's hard unless they're extremely thoughtful+curious+non-judgmental too (and very few of them are)
The trick with finding friends as an aspiring astrophysicist is that they have to understand that you often don't have much time because you need to put intense amounts of hours into studying. So it's probably better if they share many of your interests or tendencies. I have a very high degree of respect for behavioral genetics, neuroscience, and computer science as well, so I can definitely be close to people in those fields.
I'm a college student right now but I don't like most clubs. In clubs, most people end up talking to their friends anyways, and I end up having no one to talk to. And beyond that, I'm just not a big fan of the way clubs are structured/organized (I have ADD so I zone out very quickly whenever there are lectures that don't follow written text). I know that some of you will be quick to accuse me of having a self-fulfilling prophecy, but ADD is one of the hardest conditions to control (I've done a much better job with controlling Asperger's - to the point that I don't even need to identify with that label anymore)
That, and there's a friendship problem anyways. It's extremely hard to find someone that you can "click" with. Lower-level friendships are okay too. But I'm incompatible with most of the people I meet (even for lower-level friendships) - it's incredibly hard to talk to anything with them (I can think about many possible topics but it takes a mind that's very "intuitive" on myers-briggs to actually have a real conversation with me). And then I just give up since I'm better off refocusing the effort towards preparing for grad school. I actually open myself up extremely quickly (especially on facebook) just in hopes that i could reduce the timesink from talking to new people (which usually doesn't work out).
The vast majority of my contacts come from the Internet. There, it's far easier to talk to people since they open up more quickly and since they're also not around their friends. Plus, they can stalk me on the Internet so that they could get more information about me before deciding to talk to me. And I might have found friends if only my school had a forum. But it doesn't have one and its IRC is dead
Normal people could potentially work but it's hard unless they're extremely thoughtful+curious+non-judgmental too (and very few of them are)
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