denjay said:
As stated, the why part is a question left to philosophers (it's still fun to think about).
A way to think about force is using the equation you stated.
Force = Mass x Acceleration
Using some standard units, 1 unit of Force called a Newton is the amount it takes to accelerate an object having a mass of 1 kg exactly 1 m/s^2 (assuming no friction).
1 Newton = 1 kg x 1 m/s^2
If you push a 1 kg object hard enough on a frictionless floor such that its velocity increases 1 meter/second every second, you are putting a force of 1 Newton on that object.
I think now there must be a 'further than this' argument. The answer to 'why' F=ma is in what happens after the object (in a frictionless environment) reaches 1 m/s. So a Force of 1 Newton is placed upon an object and that object is 1 kg. This object begins to move in the direction of the force at a rate of 1 m/s per second. Thus in one second the object will have begun to move 1 m/s and will have moved 1 meter. Thus the force required to move the object 1 meter during the time of one second is going to be 1 Newton. What happens after that object has been pushed by this unnamed force, does it stop moving? No, there is nothing to stop it, it will go on forever because there is absolutely no force required to keep an object in motion.
So then, what is force? It is something that has the ability to move another object up to any velocity. So long as no other forces are acting, that object will continue to 'accelerate' in the direction of the force. Therefore we have covered one factor pertaining into this mystery force we have not identified yet. There must be something else, however, since not all objects are pushed and pulled about by any constant force with the same ease. The other factor (this is inductive reasoning) is how big or heavy something is. In Physics, since the adjectives 'big' or 'heavy' mean nothing, we calculate the thing's mass, which holds true regardless of an object's size or weight. Now, we know from pushing a car or trying to lift a mountain, that the force required to do so is most often outside our ability, yet this is only because of gravity or friction. If neither of these forces were in place, one could potentially use force on any object, regardless of the size, except that the bigger the object, the more force would be required in order to get it moving 1 m/s. Force, then, is simply the thing that makes another thing move and the factors that go into motion are the mass and acceleration of an object. There are no other factors, as Isaac Newton noted and this can be proved through scientific experimentation. So long as other forces are accounted for, an object will behave exactly how the applied math of physics tell it too.
F=ma can also be deduced (whereas the above was an induction) For instance if one drops an apple and a car and shoots a bullet at 90 degrees all at the same time, the apple, the car, and the bullet will all hit the ground at the same time. Thus we can tell that there is a force acting upon all three (even something in motion itself) which is in all cases completely equal barring an obstruction or other force. This unknown force can be deduced through math.
Physics says that all objects have a gravitational force which pulls them together depending on the mass of the objects. Mathematically, this means that gravity is not truly independent of mass, only that the mass between the problems cancel out, since a bullet itself (having it's own gravitational mass) pulls less than a car, so the mass of a car is also pulling the Earth bringing it toward the Earth at an equal acceleration despite (and because) it has a greater mass.
While this is a riveting tangent, the greater understanding behind the why of F=ma comes through the deductive and deductive reasoning behind the behavior of a stationary object, a, moving object, and an accelerating object, which just so happens to be the first three laws of motion as understood by the expression which Newton derived.
If I were to have written the equation, I would have written that a=F/m. and I would have set m/s2 equal to N/kg. This would make the ratio more understandable. For example, when I say 9.8N/kg, then a 4,000kg object would have to be pulled by a force of 39,200N in order to reach an acceleration of 9.8m/s2. Then you get a better idea of the downward pull on an object and why it is pulled downward with a constant acceleration.
This website* does a good job of explaining that a force is interactive and gravity, for example is dependent on the mass of both objects affecting one another constructively, and the distance affecting it destructively.
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http://physics.weber.edu/amiri/phys...&Gravity/reviewofgravity/ReviewofGravity.html