Flex is a sad boy

rootX

I hope you find a normal girl next time once you get over her. There is nothing good in being a savior or changing/protecting others in relationships.

Personally, I try to be unattached when I am in a protector/supporter role but I have never been in a case similar to your one.

Evo

Flex, we told you to stay away from emotionally damaged women. There is a good chance that she will have problems going back to a sick, abusive environment and come back to you for a while to regroup, then leave you again.

DON'T DO IT!

Get away.

Start looking for NORMAL, MENTALLY STABLE, women that aren't victims of abuse.

But I think you can't do it, because you enjoy the sick way these women need you and want to provide for you because of their history of abuse and their need to please.

AlephZero

Jean-Paul Satre got it about right: "Hell is other people".

Still, very few people actually die from broken hearts. Twelve months from now you will probably feel rather different about it. And if it wasn't as "real" as you think it is, you will feel different a lot quicker than that.

lisab

Sorry you're going through this . I hope things look better after a good night's sleep.

rootX

+1.


I thought flex is fuming with immature girls and their friends

JaredJames

Am I really the only one seeing this as a 2 month fling that got too serious too quick?

I'm sorry if it's harsh but I must ask, after such a short time are you sure it was really a good move to start considering moving in together? Were you really that emotionally involved? Did you really know each other that well? Or have I completely missed something and was this over a longer term?

Again, don't want to be so blunt, but I feel someone here has to ask these questions. As much as I want to give you a pat on the back and tell you not to worry, things will get better, I don't think it reflects my feelings towards this very well at all.

(I've decided I'm taking a 'straight up' approach to things from now on and just calling it like I see it.)

Zryn

There seems to be a lot of missing information that may skew perceptions.

Does this equate to asking for a mod to lock the thread, or do you just need time out?

Perhaps given the sensitive nature of the event you could temper 'straight up' and re-word aggressive comments like 'fling' (since there seems to be a strong emotional attachment, which is contrary to the premise of a fling) by replacing it with 'relationship', which seems more appropriate (to me anyway).

Math Is Hard

OK, I will close this, but I will just add one comment:

Miss Right can't get to you if Miss Wrong is still in the way.

Think it over.