Your original title, "balance proves gravity isn't a force" belies some confusion of terms.
Gravity and weight are not the same thing, but are interchanged loosely in discussions about gravity. When a body is in free-fall, it is weightless.
When something prevents it from falling at 9.8 meters/sec sq to the center of the earth, weight manifests in the body, which is a force.
One simple experiment you can do to demonstrate this is take a ball which is attached to a spring. The other end of the spring is attached to the inside of a cup. Hold the cup with one hand and let the ball hang from the spring, until it stops oscillating. At this point, it is in equilibrium. The spring elastic force acting upward cancels out the weight of the ball acting downward.
But now, release the cup. What happens? The weight of the ball "vanishes". The only force now acting on the ball is the spring force. As the ball,spring, and cup accelerate to the earth-- weightless-- under the influence of gravity, the spring will pull the ball back into the cup.