johny12321 said:Okay so I've known this girl forever, she's 21 and I'm 19. Our parents are best friends and we go away on vacation every year for New Years. This year, we had a New Year's kiss and it escalated to us hanging out pretty much the entire vacation. I can't get her out of my head but I don't know what to do. Any advice?
There is no one specific scientific explanation for why someone can't stop thinking about a particular person. It could be due to various factors such as physical attraction, emotional connection, or past experiences. The brain's reward and pleasure centers also play a role in reinforcing thoughts about someone we are interested in.
It is normal to think about someone frequently if you have feelings for them. However, if it starts to interfere with your daily life and becomes obsessive, it may be a sign of an underlying issue such as anxiety or insecurity.
Trying to force yourself to stop thinking about someone can often have the opposite effect and make you think about them even more. It is important to acknowledge and accept your thoughts, but also find healthy ways to manage them and redirect your focus.
One way to try and stop thinking about someone is to keep yourself busy and engaged in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. It can also be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or therapist about your thoughts and feelings.
Trying to completely control and suppress your thoughts is not a healthy approach. Instead, try to understand and accept your thoughts, but also recognize that they do not define you. Focus on self-care and building a fulfilling life for yourself, and over time, your thoughts about this girl may become less intrusive.