SamRoss said:
This makes sense. I'm still confused about the apparent action at a distance, though.
Let's say someone was just floating in space. Nothing is causing him to move. All of a sudden, the Earth blinks into existence nearby. According to Newton, the force from the Earth would traverse the distance between it and the man instantaneously, causing the man to move toward the Earth. According to Einstein, why is there a time delay between the moment the Earth blinked into existence and the moment the curvature at the man's location became non-zero? And where is that found in the field equations?
You might want to study the electromagnetic equivalent problem first.
A charge is sitting out in empty space. All of a sudden, another charge pops into existence. According to Maxwell's equations, what happens?
Using arguments similar to yours, we could argue for the existence of a "paradox", and "action at a distance", but it'd be a distraction from the real issue. The main point is that Maxwell's equations do not allow charges to just appear or disappear like that.
Gravity is a bit more complicated, but the answer is basically the same.
Going back to the electromagnetic equations, the way we measure the speed of light is not to make charges appear and disappear out of nothingness, because that's impossible. Instead, we study the speed of electromagnetic radiation.
On a more technical note, you can find a proof that the continuity equations can be derived from Maxwell's equations
<<here>>.
The continuity equations are the equations that say that charge can't just disappear.
$$\nabla \cdot \vec{j} + \frac{\partial \rho}{\partial t} = 0$$
Here j is the current density, and ##\rho## is the charge density.
Basically means that if the rate of change of charge density ##\rho## is nonzero, there must be a current flowing away in such a manner as to carry the charge away away, expressed mathematically by ##\nabla \cdot \vec{J}##. That's not compatible with a charge suddenly disappearing for no reason. Intuitively, we can say that charge is conserved, so it can't just vanish, or appear from nowhere. The math just illustrates that the conservation of charge is already a logical consequence of Maxwell's equations, it is not a seprarate assumption that needs to be added to them.
Thus it is mathematically inconsistent to ask what happens when a charge dissappears according to Maxwell's equations. It's the same as asking "what happens if 0=1".
http://maxwells-equations.com/equations/continuity.php