Advice for a young undergrad lusting after an older grad student?

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An undergraduate expresses a crush on her former TA, a 29-year-old math grad student, and is unsure how to approach him due to their age difference and her lack of interaction opportunities since he is no longer her TA. Despite her concerns about the age gap, she is eager to get to know him better and is seeking advice on how to initiate contact. The discussion encourages her to simply ask him out for coffee, emphasizing that the age difference is not significant and that both are adults. Various participants share humorous anecdotes and affirm that many undergrad-grad relationships can work out. The consensus is to act on her feelings rather than overthink the situation, as rejection would leave her in the same position she is currently in. The conversation lightens with jokes about dating norms and the dynamics of attraction in academic settings, ultimately reinforcing the idea that taking a chance is worthwhile.
  • #51
DanP said:
You are still figuring things on your own :P Besides, everybody gets played, and everyone will play someone during their life, unless you marry you high school sweetheart and live happily ever after.

Believe me, it feels no different if you fall in love with a 20 years old and he plays you, or for a 35 years years man and he plays you. D'ont be so concerned about you "super-sensitive time". You are not 13 anymore.

no no, I don't think everyone has to get played or have to play others - it shouldn't be like that at all! and it doesn't happen all that often... maybe more in big cities where people are more 'hard' but not here! I think most people you'll meet are genuine and are nice! sometimes relationships just don't work out - its not anyone being mean, its just people change.

yeah ok, I agree that anyone of any age can hurt others who love them, but I think someone with a lot more life experience might hurt the younger one more? maybe, or that the younger person just won't understand what is happenning and might think something is wrong with themselves and blame themselves for it? I dunno... complicated...
 
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  • #52
nucleargirl said:
no no, I don't think everyone has to get played or have to play others - it shouldn't be like that at all! and it doesn't happen all that often... maybe more in big cities where people are more 'hard' but not here! I think most people you'll meet are genuine and are nice! sometimes relationships just don't work out - its not anyone being mean, its just people change.

Can we have again this conversation in about 20 years ? I am curious if you'll think the same :P
 
  • #53
DanP said:
Can we have again this conversation in about 20 years ? I am curious if you'll think the same :P

:) who knows eh! I hope so!
 

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