Am I Moving On or Just Stuck in My EX's Shadow?

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The discussion centers around the emotional turmoil following a breakup with a fiancé, who has since moved on to another relationship. The individual expresses feelings of confusion and guilt about starting to date someone new while still grappling with unresolved feelings for the ex. There is a struggle between wanting to move on and the difficulty of letting go, particularly due to fond memories and connections with the ex's family. The individual reflects on how the breakup has affected their academic performance and overall emotional state, acknowledging the need for validation of their feelings while also seeking advice on how to navigate their current situation. Participants in the discussion emphasize the importance of honesty with both themselves and the new person they are dating, suggesting that taking time to heal and possibly reducing contact with the ex might be beneficial. The conversation highlights the complexities of moving on from a significant relationship and the challenges of determining the nature of new connections.
  • #31
dextercioby said:
If u don't (have a hook),how are u going to hook up with a nice guy...?
Are you kidding? She'd scare the hell out of a nice guy. She needs somebody like us. :biggrin:
 
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  • #32
Danger said:
She needs somebody like us. :biggrin:

Us?

US?

You mean me. :smile:

How economical is a pirate ship?
 
  • #33
brewnog said:
You mean me. :smile:
Oh all right then, you. She probably wants somebody closer to your age anyhow. I'll just keep after the others.

brewnog said:
How economical is a pirate ship?
It depends upon how much power the fan takes to drive the sails.
 
  • #34
Danger said:
Oh all right then, you. She probably wants somebody closer to your age anyhow. I'll just keep after the others.
Fair enough. You keep trying your magic on Moonbear and Evo...

Danger babe said:
It depends upon how much power the fan takes to drive the sails.

Aww. I thought you'd have got that one too, uncle.

45 miles to the galleon.
 
  • #35
hrmm fellas... I'm used to the long distance thing and all.. but it would help if the guy was at least in the same country eh? or is that the convienient thing about it... you don't actually have to be around me... "sorry babe... this ocean thing... you know... "

edit: oh, and yes it helps if the guy courting me isn't older than my father...
 
  • #36
Gale17 said:
hrmm fellas... I'm used to the long distance thing and all.. but it would help if the guy was at least in the same country eh?

Well that's Danger out then! :-p

Gale04 said:
or is that the convienient thing about it... you don't actually have to be around me... "sorry babe... this ocean thing... you know... "

Rats. She's smarter than she looks...
 
  • #37
brewnog said:
Well that's Danger out then! :-p



Rats. She's smarter than she looks...


hrm... so i don't look smart eh? maybe that pillow is giving the wrong impression... that's it, pillows got to go!
 
  • #38
Gale17 said:
hrm... so i don't look smart eh? maybe that pillow is giving the wrong impression... that's it, pillows got to go!


Hmm, I think the pillow actually helps your cause...
 
  • #39
Pillowhead said:
hrm... so i don't look smart eh? maybe that pillow is giving the wrong impression... that's it, pillows got to go!
Keep the pillow. Get rid of blind Brewnog if he can't see how smart you look.
 
  • #40
zoobyshoe said:
Keep the pillow. Get rid of blind Brewnog if he can't see how smart you look.
oh yes, I'm sure i look like a real eistein with a pillow on my head and my lips snarled like a pirate.

Sides... i don't think I'm in a position to just toss out suitors... at least he meets my age requirements...
 
  • #41
Gale17 said:
oh yes, I'm sure i look like a real eistein with a pillow on my head and my lips snarled like a pirate.
A pillow would be a good look for Einstein.
Sides... i don't think I'm in a position to just toss out suitors... at least he meets my age requirements...
Which is important, but don't forget I have a lot of money tied up in those bumperstickers.
 
  • #42
zoobyshoe said:
Which is important, but don't forget I have a lot of money tied up in those bumperstickers.

Which reminds me. Zooby, you fancy lending me a couple of grand?
 
  • #43
zoobyshoe said:
A pillow would be a good look for Einstein.

Which is important, but don't forget I have a lot of money tied up in those bumperstickers.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA OOOH WOW! alright folks... there's the first attempt to actually BUY me! hahahaaha!

hmm... so how much you got zoob? I'm suddenly feeling more open to older men...
 
  • #44
Gale17 said:
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA OOOH WOW! alright folks... there's the first attempt to actually BUY me! hahahaaha!

hmm... so how much you got zoob? I'm suddenly feeling more open to older men...


Sounds like an auction to me...

If everyone bids in the currency of their choice, it should make things interesting (especially if they're out of use).

I'll start the bidding with 3,200 Italian Lire.
 
  • #45
Danger said:
Are you kidding? She'd scare the hell out of a nice guy. She needs somebody like us. :biggrin:
She needs a nice guy who can withstand a Gale force. :biggrin:

I am sorry to hear about your woes.

Evo said:
You're in mourning over your relationship. Sounds like your ex and his family were a big part of your life and now that's gone. There would be something wrong with you if you weren't going through this kind of emotional and physical readjustment.
Evo hit the nail on the head. You had a very close relationship, especially if you were engaged, with a lot of emotional investment. That is not easy to get over.

Hang in there. :cool:
 
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  • #46
brewnog said:
Aww. I thought you'd have got that one too, uncle.

45 miles to the galleon.
Rats! It must be my Spanish blood. I can't think of pirates as being other than French or English.
 
  • #47
Gale17 said:
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA OOOH WOW! alright folks... there's the first attempt to actually BUY me! hahahaaha!
Oh, dear, Gale, you misunderstood. When I said the money is tied up in bumperstickers I mean I gave all my money to the printer for the bumperstickers. If you abandon Pillowhead who will buy the bumperstickers?
 
  • #48
brewnog said:
Which reminds me. Zooby, you fancy lending me a couple of grand?
Couple thousand Pillowhead bumperstickers?
 
  • #49
zoobyshoe said:
Oh, dear, Gale, you misunderstood. When I said the money is tied up in bumperstickers I mean I gave all my money to the printer for the bumperstickers. If you abandon Pillowhead who will buy the bumperstickers?
DRAT so much for feeling loved... though hey, i got one bid eh? someone wants to buy me! 3,200 italian lire? hmm... what's that exchange to?
 
  • #50
Gale17 said:
DRAT so much for feeling loved... though hey, i got one bid eh? someone wants to buy me! 3,200 italian lire? hmm... what's that exchange to?
More importantly, how many pillows can one buy with 3,200 lire?
 
  • #51
eek! that's only around $2.24
 
  • #52
hypatia said:
eek! that's only around $2.24

HAHAHAHA OOOH WOW! Guess how my self esteem is doing...
 
  • #53
That won't even buy a pillowcase!
 
  • #54
Math Is Hard said:
That won't even buy a pillowcase!
Good grief! I go away for a couple of hours and come back to this? I can can actually come up with enough to outbid Brewnog, and since Zooby has convinced her that we old folks are okay, the only obstacle now is the nation of residence thing. Our immigration policy is lax enough that even she can probably get in. :biggrin:
 
  • #55
Danger said:
...and since Zooby has convinced her that we old folks are okay...
Nope. Don't pin that on me. She hallucinated dollar signs and convinced herself.
 
  • #56
zoobyshoe said:
She hallucinated dollar signs and convinced herself.
Close enough. :devil:
 
  • #57
Danger said:
Good grief! I go away for a couple of hours and come back to this? I can can actually come up with enough to outbid Brewnog, and since Zooby has convinced her that we old folks are okay, the only obstacle now is the nation of residence thing. Our immigration policy is lax enough that even she can probably get in. :biggrin:


AYE! dear god... someone please... PLEASE don't let danger win the bid! C'mon guys! or gals! i won't be picky! just not danger... c'mon... oh PLEASE! UGH!
 
  • #58
Gale, I'm just finally getting around to reading this thread, and since it's already 3 pages long, I'm just skimming after your first post.

Anyway, getting over an ex is tough. Most people I've known just need to cut off contact for a while to be able to move on. It can be really difficult to find the will power to do that, especially when it's not just the guy you're missing, but the security of a close-knit family.

As for the guy you're dating now, as long as you've told him you're not ready for a relationship, then it's his choice to stay or go. Dating is good, especially at your age, and even if he's just the rebound guy. Yeah, you know the saying, if you fall off the horse, you have to get right back on it. And, hey, it's summertime now, and you'll be chased off to find a summer job, so who knows, maybe you'll get a little summer romance going with a coworker on that job.
 
  • #59
Gale17 said:
AYE! dear god... someone please... PLEASE don't let danger win the bid! C'mon guys! or gals! i won't be picky! just not danger... c'mon... oh PLEASE! UGH!
Don't worry. "Gale17" is a copyrite protected subsidiary of "Got Pillowhead, Inc." No one can buy "Gale17" without written permission from Me, Pillowhead, and all Pillowhead-like Personages (Cat Head, for instance).
 
  • #60
Gale17 said:
AYE! dear god... someone please... PLEASE don't let danger win the bid! C'mon guys! or gals! i won't be picky! just not danger... c'mon... oh PLEASE! UGH!
Would it help if I shave?
 

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