Are you single, married, or do you have a gf/bf?

[Cyrus]

yeah--that's called pride

Or perhaps, insecurity on your part?

 

[JasonRox]

I told my girl that even if I married I would want my own apartment!

I need my space. I just don't get attached for some reason. I do what I want to do and that's that. Again, left to Quebec for the summer. Away from her. She wasn't happy about it. Next summer, I'm probably leaving to France. She's even less impressed with that. She seems to assume I would stay for her or something.

Space is good for me.

Also, Cyrus doesn't come off as superficial or shallow at all. He basically described the basics of where his interest in another girl starts if he were looking. Again, I'm sure he would be interested in a cute blond with pretty nice skin if they met with no purpose, and he got to know her.

I also would leave the girl if she took a turn for the worse. Who would stay with that? I definitely would not stay.

Note: I don't want to get married.

 

[rewebster]

Or perhaps, insecurity on your part?

that's called projection

 

[JasonRox]

You fail to recognize that if you want to have a happy fulfilling life, you should have a good long-term relationship with another person (I'm not even specifying a gender here) with a person that you love and respect.

Are you specifying only one person? Are you implying marriage? Commitment?

If so, I disagree.

 

[Cyrus]

You have stripped all the positive stuff out of my response, Cy. You fail to recognize that if you want to have a happy fulfilling life, you should have a good long-term relationship with another person (I'm not even specifying a gender here) with a person that you love and respect.

Yep, I agree. Whats that got to do with physical attraction though (Which is what I'm talking about and NOT what you're talking about)? You are talking about what comes after physical attraction. I am talking about the intial attraction phase.

If your partner is equally loving and respectful in return, that is a sign that you have chosen well. If you have rejected a potential partner because she is not brunette, does not have a dark skin-tone, has some freckles, or does not have perfect skin or has (GASP!) a piercing or a tattoo, then you are doing the gene-pool a favor. We don't need any more of those tendencies.

...Um, okay...

If you are screening women based on appearance, you will eventually find one that is perfect and she will drive you crazy for the rest of your live. If you search for a life-partner, you will be happy and fulfilled. I hope that you do the latter.

Im curious. Do you honestly just take whatever you can get in terms of women? I have girls that are friends that I picked up on that they liked me. I had to tell them, your nice but I am sorry. I am not attracted to you, I am not going to date you.

 

[JasonRox]

I had to tell them, your nice but I am sorry. I am not attracted to you, I am not going to date you.

The funny part is that they will keep trying!

 

[Cyrus]

The funny part is that they will keep trying!

Its kind of pathetic really. I said no to one girl, and when she's around she sits close to me. I got mad and got up and sat across the room. I don't want you all over me, I said no. Respect my decision.

 

[rewebster]

The funny part is that they will keep trying!

and they'll do it again, even after they've done it many times before

 

[JasonRox]

and they'll do it again, even after they've done it many times before

Haha, it's funny. Like the one girl who kept telling me to call her. The one time I was really drunk and I called her at like 4am, and she was willing to come over. Then I was like... wait, nevermind I'm going to bed.

Haha.

Cyrus, the best way to go is just ignore it.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

Lol...

Whoa, let's count them

(1) - Nice skin
[a] No freckles
No moles
[c] No birthmarks
[d] No tattoos
[e] No major scars
[f] No non-standard piercings
(2) - Brunette
[a] No blondes
No redheads
[c] No dye jobs
(3) - Dress well
(4) - Look 'natural'

Fixed. I'm just assuming on (1)[e]&[f] and (2)[c] based on other opinions you have expressed. And I'm pretty sure there are other preferences you have that you haven't mentioned. Particularly I am sure there are plenty of subsections for sections (3) and (4).

 

[JasonRox]

Lol...

Fixed. I'm just assuming on (1)[e]&[f] and (2)[c] based on other opinions you have expressed. And I'm pretty sure there are other preferences you have that you haven't mentioned. Particularly I am sure there are plenty of subsections for sections (3) and (4).

Wow, I didn't see that list.

I've seen some sexy redheads. You're missing out.

 

[rewebster]

well, so, to sum it up, you want a woman that looks perfect (in your eyes/preferences) every time you see her--and when she doesn't look perfect, you're going to dump her--


by applying those standards on the women you see, it does 'control' her to be perfect for you--so, she is, more or less, a slave to and for beauty for you--

and people who control or who want 'things to be perfect' usually have learned that control and have been controlled themselves---it is really based on insecurity (as you tried to project onto me)---the over pre-occupation with 'women' having to be exactly the 'way' that you want will lead to a lot of problems down the road, and there may be a more underlaying reason for you to 'reject' so many women for such small reasons.

 

[Math Is Hard]

Good height, nice tan skin, long legs, nice back.

I think Cyrus wants to date himself.

You're a narcissist, Cyrus. That's all there is to it.

 

[Fearless]

I would actually like to see cyrus fall head over heels in love for a woman! That would be so funny.

But I think that everyone is entitled to their own flavour and criterias for a partner. Some of us have pretty high standards, some don't. It depends on our life experience. When I were younger I would probably go at it like you cyrus and be really picky with looks, ambition and whatnot. But as I grow older I have also grown to accept that compatibility is also very important, but if they are really bad at sex, look like a heap of trash and have the ambition of a basement dweller, then it's not for me.

Being picky with women is having respect for yourself, not being narcissistic.

 

[Cyrus]

Lol...

Fixed. I'm just assuming on (1)[e]&[f] and (2)[c] based on other opinions you have expressed. And I'm pretty sure there are other preferences you have that you haven't mentioned. Particularly I am sure there are plenty of subsections for sections (3) and (4).

I'd say you got (1) pretty close.

(2) Close. Now, there is the occasional blonde or red head that are hot. But most of the time, I don't find them as attractive on average as brunettes. Its probably because I am middle eastern I like darker hair. As for part [c], it really depends on age. I have one friend she dies her hair really really blonde from time to time. It looks damn horrible, and her hair looks very nice the way it is. I've noticed most older women tend to have their hair their natural color.

(3) Dress well, but that does not mean expensive. Wear something nice when I take you out. Its not too much to ask. I see a large number of girls on campus walking around in guy shorts and t-shirts. They look like boys with pony-tails. They make shorts for women. They look good. Please wear them ladies, it shows off your nice legs because they are shorter than guy shorts.

(4) Is a great plus. Man so many girls wear nail polish on their hands and feet. But then they pick at it and it chips away and they don't do anything to fix it and it looks disgusting. I think your hands and feet look fine the way they were made. I wouldn't want someone so fussy with their nails. Just leave them alone, and make sure they are clean. Simple.

Notice, these are all really simple simple things, yet a LOT of people don't do them. They overdo themselves and the end result is they look far worse than if they had just left themselves alone and been subtle.

 

[Math Is Hard]

Being picky with women is having respect for yourself, not being narcissistic.

The tongue smiley means I'm kidding.

 

[Cyrus]

The tongue smiley means I'm kidding.

MIH is the one and only hot blonde though.

(Is moonbear blonde too? )

 

[Fearless]

MIH: Yeah, I shouldn't have used the word narcissistic, but it actually got the sentence to sound better. I wasn't really aiming that at anyone in particular.

Cyrus: So, from a curious view, have you ever felt true undying love?

 

[Lisa!]

I think Cyrus wants to date himself.

You're a narcissist, Cyrus. That's all there is to it.

I'm going to buy him a mirror for his birthday!

 

[Moonbear]

The part that makes me laugh the most is that Cyrus wants a woman with perfect skin, would dump her as soon as she has a blemish, but also wants them tan. I guess he's not at all interested in a long-term relationship, because all those tanned women are the ones who will wind up with more and more blemishes and wrinkles as they get older. And, of course if you're not looking for anything long term, that's fine, just say so. For example, Jason Rox is pretty clear about that, he's not looking for a relationship, just someone hot for regular booty calls.

I'm just going to die laughing when one or the other of them falls head over heels in love with a blonde woman with freckles, pale skin, a little mole on her butt, and they can't bear to be away from her long.

 

[Lacy33]

Does anyone have a link to a photo of Cyrus please?

 

[WarPhalange]

Nah, someone with normal skin like ours wouldn't be able to handle that kind of perfection, even if it was captured in a photograph.

Hey. Guess who probably has the perfect skin you are talking about.

http://www.babble.com/CS/blogs/famecrawler/2008/michael-jackson-neverland.jpg

 

[Kurdt]

I have a pic of http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/09/ugly3_lg.gif" with his lovely skin

 

[NeoDevin]

Why are people giving cyrus a hard time? He has his own particular tastes for what he finds attractive, and he is aware of them. I don't see a problem with this. There is nothing wrong with being picky about a significant other, especially if the eventual goal is to marry. Maybe if more people knew exactly what they wanted in a mate (both looks and personality), the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.

It seems ridiculous to rag on cyrus for being pickier than average, when more than half of all marriages end in divorce anyways.

 

[turbo]

When someone sets impossibly high standards for their potential mate's appearance or social status, it reminds me of High School cliques. Suzy is the head cheerleader, so she is the Alpha female and any guy that can't get her has to "settle". Bill is the high-scoring point guard and the captain of the basketball team, and he is SOO handsome... When I went to my 10-year class reunion (the only one I went to), most of the "Suzys" and "Bills" had already been divorced and remarried and I didn't know half of the people there. Some of those people are now on their third or fourth marriages. Sad. Don't accessorize yourself with your mate. Beauty is transitory. Rodin got it right with his belle heaulmière.

 

[DaveC426913]

Why are people giving cyrus a hard time?

Out of love.

...more than half of all marriages end in divorce anyways.

Which isn't too bad when you consider the other half end in ... death.

 

[Lacy33]

Nah, someone with normal skin like ours wouldn't be able to handle that kind of perfection, even if it was captured in a photograph.

Hey. Guess who probably has the perfect skin you are talking about.

http://www.babble.com/CS/blogs/famecrawler/2008/michael-jackson-neverland.jpg

Wow! This guy glows in the dark.
My mum lives on the hill one over from his old place. I bet she could have seen him walking about his grounds from her place when he was still there. (at night)

 

[Lisa!]

I should find Cyrus a Shirazian girl since the qualities he says mostly matches them! They don't need tan since their skin already look likes they have tan.

 

[humanino]

When someone sets impossibly high standards for their potential mate's appearance or social status, it reminds me of High School cliques.

When I read Cyrus' description, I thought of my own gf. Does it mean I am dating the perfect girl. I certainly think so But from an objective point of view, maybe I'm just blindly in love. I repeat N+1 times my opinion : you guys don't show respect for feelings, which only matter. Rationalizing them is possible and sometimes useful, but it only comes second and cannot change feelings. Rationalizing can change your behavior, and your open-mindness to feeling, but only in the future.

 

[Lacy33]

I have a pic of http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/09/ugly3_lg.gif" with his lovely skin

Aw, I can't get this link.
But I suppose after the the ex-playboy bunnies go south, and their counter parts employ live-in hydraulics experts.
If they are lucky to live that long they will wish they started looking inward so many years earlier.
But this young person Cyrus, may still be a teen in which case his thoughts are pretty much on target. At least as much as my dusty old diary read.