The light from any point on the leaf will be spread out into an airy disk, the size of which depends on the optical properties of the whole system, including the eye.
For an extended object, yes, the image through the telescope or binoculars is the same brightness as it is through the naked eye. For a point-like source, like a far away star, the brightness is generally increased since even after you magnify the image the object is still unable to be resolved as anything but point-like. (Just like Merlin explained in post #23)
The leaf doesn't have a single airy disc. Every point on the leaf has its own airy disc, and since there are an infinite number of points, there are an infinite number of airy discs. It is this overlapping pattern of airy discs that forms the image on your retina. When you magnify the image of the leaf, you magnify the pattern of airy discs, which spreads out the light.
Not necessarily. If the lamp is small enough, then magnifying its image won't spread the light out very much, so the intensity increases drastically, similar to how a point-like source acts.
Honestly if you're worried about blue light harming your eye, just buy a blue-blocking filter.