HansH said:
as I understand time stops at the event horizon of a black hole for the far away observer
You understand incorrectly. A correct understanding would be that we, as far away observers, cannot see light emitted at or inside the horizon. But that's not the same as "time stops".
HansH said:
can we actually see 2 black holes orbiting eachother?
We can't see light coming from inside their horizons. But we can see plenty of optical effects (like blocking out or lensing of light from stars that are behind the holes) that tell us that there are 2 black holes orbiting each other.
HansH said:
I also understood that the singularity is a moment in future.
In the future of all events
inside the horizon.
HansH said:
what happens when 2 black holes orbit eachother with the singularites?
There is only one singularity, as
@Ibix said. The spacetime "shape" of the horizon in a black hole merger is like a pair of trousers: the singularity is at the top, at the "waist" of the trousers.
HansH said:
from the outside world you could point to a kind of geometrical position where each singularity woud be
No. The singularity is a moment of time, not a place in space.
HansH said:
so this would mean that also the 2 singularities would orbit around eachother.
No. See above. There is only one singularity, and it doesn't orbit anything.
HansH said:
If there only ever was one singularity then it was always already known that they would merge.
Yes. The event horizon is a globally defined surface in spacetime: in order to know exactly where it is, you have to know the entire future of the spacetime. That includes knowing about all mergers of black holes.
HansH said:
there was no singularity then.
You can't think of the singularity that way; it is a moment of time, not a place in space. Today is Saturday; if I think of last Monday, there was no Saturday "then", but that doesn't mean there isn't one now.