Dating Advice for the Newbie Dater

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Start date Jan 29, 2008

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The discussion revolves around navigating the complexities of dating after a hiatus, particularly focusing on how to approach a first date with a smart, no-nonsense woman. The main advice emphasizes being authentic and observant, suggesting that one should not alter their personality excessively to impress. Humor and playfulness can be beneficial, but it's important to gauge the other person's reactions and maintain a balance between seriousness and goofiness. Several anecdotes illustrate the importance of being genuine, with examples of dates that went well due to light-heartedness and spontaneity, contrasted with experiences of awkwardness stemming from overly serious or immature behavior. Participants agree that making a good impression is crucial, but ultimately, being oneself is key to forming a genuine connection. The conversation also touches on the idea of compatibility and the significance of mutual enjoyment during interactions as indicators of attraction. Overall, the consensus is to relax, be attentive, and focus on creating a comfortable atmosphere rather than overthinking the dynamics of the date.

Feb 1, 2008

Moonbear

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rewebster said:

it sounds like your 100 miles north of International Fall (not that Canada is desolate everywhere)

No, but the nearest city is an hour and a half away, and that's hardly a "real" city. The nearest "real" city is about 3 hours away. But, having grown up in NJ, I also can't kick the habit of visiting "THE" city, which means NYC. On the other hand, when what I need is warm, durable clothing for working outdoors on a farm, I'm not shopping in a city for those.