Dealing With Unrequited Love in University

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A user expresses feelings for a girl they have admired since childhood but never had the courage to approach. After years of silence, they emailed her, receiving a prompt response, but have since not heard back for a month. This has led to uncertainty about her feelings and whether to reach out again. Forum participants discuss the nature of infatuation versus genuine connection, emphasizing that the user has built an idealized image of the girl without truly knowing her. Many suggest that the user should consider moving on, as the lack of mutual feelings could lead to disappointment. They advise keeping communication light and friendly, avoiding heavy emotional declarations, and recognizing the importance of mutual interest in any potential relationship. The conversation highlights the risks of holding onto an idealized past and the need to engage with new people to foster genuine connections.

What should I do?

  • Send her another email (but what should I say? Tell her she is special to me?)

    Votes: 6 27.3%
  • Don't bother

    Votes: 16 72.7%

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    22
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ILEW please re-read what some of the other people have said on here, some of it seems really good, because I'm not really one for giving advice
but what i do is that girls don't like it when they know that someone they barely know is really into them... freaky you know? lol
and it is clear that she doesn't want much to do with you since she didn't reply to your message... ok?
there are loads of other people out there; just try to move on now (it's about time) and try to forget about her and concentrate on your studies fully now (i think you already do this) try to socialise more as this will give you a chance to mix with new people and you can get a job... have a life... and without you noticing you'll forget about this girl and you would meet someone when you least expect it

try and imagine if it was the opposite... as in you once or twice looked at someone 10 years ago then some time later this random girl suddenly tells you that she's been in love with you for 10 years... what would you do/say? how would you feel?
 
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