Let me add something to my last answer: you might also be asking why an object that has been falling for a certain distance exerts a certain amount of (average) force on the ground during a collision. Let me try and write out the chain of events for you:
stage 1:
A 2 kilogram object is being held 4.9 meters above the ground. it is then released.
stage 2:
The object falls, accelerating downward at 9.8 meters per second per second. Of course, for an object with a mass of m, an acceleration of a is produced by a force of F = ma. This means that something must be pulling downward on the object with a force of 9.8 x 2 = 19.6 Newtons. That something is gravity.
stage 3:
In 1 second (do the math if you don't believe me), the object reaches the ground. At this point its velocity is 9.8 meters per second (again, do the math). Now, the ground resists the object's further motion. In other words, the ground acts to reduce the object's downward velocity to zero very quickly.
Changing a velocity is acceleration, of course. Specifically, the ground changes the velocity from 9.8 meters per second to zero in a short time -- let's just say 0.05 seconds. That means an average acceleration of (0 - 9.8) / 0.05 = -196 meters per second per second. (Note that this is only the average acceleration here. The acceleration actually changes a lot during that 0.05 seconds)
So, the average force exerted by the ground on the object during that 0.05 seconds must be mass times acceleration, which is 2 x (-196) = -392 Newtons. That's a lot. And of course the exact opposite, +392 Newtons, must be exerted by the object on the ground (because every force has an equal and opposite reaction force).
So, you see, the long amount of time (1 s) that gravity spends pulling on the object builds up enough velocity that if the ground (or some other unfortunate thing) tries to get rid of all that velocity in a very short time (0.05 s), it's going to need a lot more force.