Got a girls number, what do I do next?

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The discussion revolves around navigating the complexities of potential romantic interest versus friendship after meeting a woman who shares a common interest in sports and fitness. The original poster expresses uncertainty about whether the woman sees him as a potential boyfriend or just a friend, especially after they exchanged numbers and planned to run together in two weeks. Key points include the importance of being confident and not overly nice, as many self-identified "nice guys" may come off as weak or unassertive, which can be unattractive. Participants suggest that the poster should text the woman to express interest without appearing desperate and emphasize the need for clear communication and planning for future interactions. They also highlight the significance of body language in gauging mutual interest and encourage the poster to be himself while being attentive and respectful. Ultimately, the consensus is that he should take the opportunity to get to know her better, as the boundaries between friendship and romance are often fluid at this stage.
  • #31
Evo said:
Confidence is good, but I'm also attracted to guys with asperger's, go figure.
Aha! Having Asperger's has it's advantages. :smile:
 
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  • #32
bugatti79 said:
FOlks,

THis is probably a common question submitted to this forum.

I was chatting to a hot chick last night and I quite like her. I think we found a commonality thorught sports and fitness and she said she was keen to go for a run with me (2 weeks time as she's away).

I got her number and she has mine in her phone (Actually she suggested I take her number...what does this imply?)

The problem is I don't know whether she sees me as a potential BF or just a friend... We chatted for good while but nothing else happened. I didnt find any tell tales signs that she potentially likes me(maybe she was playing cool)

So what do I do...

  • How do I suss out whether its just a friend thing?

  • When do I text her, I don't want to make her think I am too keen.

In my experience, every time I meet girls (potential GF's in my mind) through my friends they always end just being friends. I always ask my self why and I think its because I am 'too nice' and do not have that xfactor that intrigues girls to say 'hes a potential BF'. So I am just wondering is this girl going to be the same thing...just a friend...

Don't be nice, don't be a jerk. Be yourself. Be honest with yourself about what you want. Be honest about what her body language is telling you. When a women "wants" you, it shows in her body language and in how she looks at you; she will act very attentive. If she's not "attentive", it could mean she's developing her social status and you're just another guy.

By all means, feel free to socialize any way you wish. But if you know what you want and you want it now, then I offer the following advice. If you're just looking for a fun time, then go night clubbing. But if you're looking for someone special, then sign up with a dating service. These are the easiest ways to meet people
 
  • #33
Mazulu said:
When a women "wants" you, it shows in her body language and in how she looks at you; she will act very attentive.

but is this true though? iv never experienced anything like this...! I thought it is a case of impressing her with your feathers so to speak before she becomes attentive..! :-)
 
  • #34
bugatti79 said:
but is this true though? iv never experienced anything like this...! I thought it is a case of impressing her with your feathers so to speak before she becomes attentive..! :-)

Do I have to state the obvious conclusion? ;)
 
  • #35
Greg Bernhardt said:
Do I have to state the obvious conclusion? ;)

:smile:

I see you have impressive feathers...if only I were like you...:-)
 
  • #36
bugatti79 said:
but is this true though? iv never experienced anything like this...! I thought it is a case of impressing her with your feathers so to speak before she becomes attentive..! :-)

Sure it's true. You'll be very attentive too if you really want to be with this girl. You'll laugh at her jokes and you'll bend over backwards to impress her.
 
  • #37
Update,

Nothing ever came of that girl. She ended up going out with some else. I just wonder what the hell was great about this guy.

I think women are like nth order non linear differential equations that only accept very specific boundary conditions...

Or maybe I am not a good mathematician...:frown:
 
  • #38
bugatti79 said:
Update,

Nothing ever came of that girl. She ended up going out with some else. I just wonder what the hell was great about this guy.

I think women are like nth order non linear differential equations that only accept very specific boundary conditions...

Or maybe I am not a good mathematician...:frown:

Just to back up my claim...even Hawking thinks women are a mystery...see last question in slide
:approve:

http://www.newscientist.com/article...interview.html?DCMP=OTC-rss&nsref=online-news
 
  • #39
bugatti79 said:
Update,

Nothing ever came of that girl. She ended up going out with some else. I just wonder what the hell was great about this guy.

I think women are like nth order non linear differential equations that only accept very specific boundary conditions...

Or maybe I am not a good mathematician...:frown:

Sorry to hear that. Did you ever call her?
 
  • #40
Call and ask her .
Don't worry is you are sincere.
 

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