Recovering (?) from a fight in a relationship

[pinball1970]

The triumph of hope over experience.

That's the spirit!

One can hope that the 50% that do not get divorced do not include a sizable chunk the 25% that cheat.

 

[pinball1970]

Just my 2 cents on divorce rates. I have known quite a few people who married, then divorced, and then married again for a much longer period, often for the rest of their lives.

At first I faulted them, but these people were usually much happier with their second spouse than their first. So my take on it now is that it is not always easy to recognize the right person the first time, and it can actually be helpful to acknowledge that and move on. Once you find the right person for you, hang in there, but maybe it is not required to pretend with the wrong person.

So finding your soulmate should perhaps be counted as success, even if it took a couple tries. I realize not everyone will feel this way, and there is also wisdom perhaps in trying hard to make a marriage work, if it can, by trying to mature. I did not start out with this point of view on divorce, but many years of observing my friends and their journeys has brought me here.

That seems like a lot of effort, meet, mate, marry, divorce and try again.

Some people dedicate their whole life to this filtering process, not necessarily with marriage as a goal to land a permanent partner.
Not perfect partner obviously, there is that 2% you hate but you bite your lip because it rarely shows itself.

Perhaps Ergo (who has fled the scene) will settle into this process and be happy?

My point was, something went wrong somewhere and the process is broken. It is best to avoid it. That is for me.

 

[pinball1970]

I think the latest data shows that in the long run we are still dead.

My question was really what was your point, statistics or not.

I made my point early doors.

 

[fresh_42]

I think we can close this thread now. For its actual purpose, we would need the OP and for general treatment, we would need to buy a new server. (cp. post #32)