There are a bunch of different concepts of mass defined in GR- it is not a single concept. As far as I know, though, none of the various sorts of masses commonly used in GR (ADM mass, Bondi mass, and Komar mass) are based on "relativistic mass", which is one reason I think relativistic mass is a dead-end concept.
See for instance
http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Mass_in_general_relativity&oldid=159600370 for some discussion of how mass is treated in GR.
For instance, SR gives any point particle an energy momentum 4-vector. The ADM mass concept, which is one of many mass concepts in GR, is one of the more flexible concepts. It basically applies to any isolated system surrounded by a sufficiently large vacuum region (more formally, it applies to asymptotically flat space-times).
The ADM mass essentially gives you something that acts like the energy-momentum 4-vector of SR, but it's defined for a gravitating system "at infinity" where space-time is asymptotically flat. (Specifically, it's a space-like infinity, in case you care). So you can think of it as a meaningful way to talk about the total momentum and total energy of a gravitating system, as long as that system is isolated.
The ADM mass is not defined in terms of gravity as a force. You can basically describe how bodies move by the geodesic equation. At low velocities, this geodesic equation looks like a Newtonian force law, at higher velocities it starts to deviate in a way that cannot in general be simply explained as forces.
On the other hand, it is clear that if you have an ideal gas consisting of randomly moving particles, said gas being contained in a pressure vessel, you can model the gravity from the assembly as a Newtonian force, even though you can't necessarily model the gravitational field of any individual particle by Newtonian forces. (We are assuming the particles in the gas are moving at relativistic velocities.)
The mass of the assembly taken as an entire unit can be seen to be affected by the motion of the particles of the gas - when you heat up the gas, the system gains energy, and this shows up as an increased mass.
See the Wikipedia article above for more. Note that the Komar (and ADM and SR) masses are all defined for this system, when taken as a whole, an they all agree. Also note that if you divide the system up into parts (the "gas alone" and the "pressure vessel alone") that you get different answers depending on which definition of mass you are using.
The Komar mass in this case is more closely related to the gravitational field, which GR predicts will be stronger just inside the interior of the pressure vessel than Newtonian theory does. (The system is nice because you can still think of gravity as a force for the entire system, even though you can't think of gravity as a force for any of the individual particles).
GR also predicts the same value for the gravitational field outside the pressure vessel, so you can think of the pressure in the interior causing "extra" gravity, and the tension in the pressure vessel causing "reduced" gravity, if you use the Komar approach.
If you use the SR approach, you'll won't see this redistribution of mass - so you'll be left scratching your head as to how to explain the increased gravitational field in the interior.