Hello H.D.
I don't understand either, but the best image I have retained (I will attribute it to Brian Greene and try to verify this later) is of two ice skaters standing several feet apart face to face. One throws a basketball to the other. The one who throws then slides backward on her ice skates from action/reaction. He, the one who catches, also slides backward from the impact energy of the ball. Then he throws the ball to her again, and so on, out to the furthest distance that they can still throw each other the ball.
The attractive forces are explained by having the skaters do an about face and then supplying them with a number of basketballs sufficient so that when they throw them away from each other, the resultant force is sufficient to push the skaters together. This side of the analogy is even more in violation of known fact. How to account for the inverse square again, this time as the skaters rush together? Do they throw more and more balls as they get closer, to manage the acceleration? And where do they get all those basketballs anyway? Is some god up in the ceiling grid raining basketballs down on them?
I see some problems with this analogy. For one thing, it does not account for the inverse square relationship. For another, the existence of the force carrior particle is inferred from the motions of the two reacting particles. No direct evidence of force carrying particles exists, afaik. Perhaps someone better informed will be able to correct me on this.
Further, in regard to gravitons, the analogy attempts to explain the effects of mass by invoking the effects of mass...a circular form of reasoning which cannot be expected to provide much new infomation.
nc