I need to make a correction:
I let myself be led astray here: this is false.
Yes, it is counter-intuitive to say that ice in a drink is not at thermal equilibrium if both are at -2C, but it is true. In the experiment I did last night, the ice/alcohol mixture passed -2C on its way to an equilibrium temperature of about -8C.
The issue is in how temperature is defined and works. In many problems it is acceptable to assume that the temperature of a subtance is completely uniform, when in reality it is not: it is a bell-curve, centered around its average value, caused by atoms vibrating randomly against each other. In this case, the bell curve matters because that is what is driving the process being investigated.
When ice is at -2C, not all of it is at -2C. Some is at -10C, some at 0C. Some molecules gain enough energy to pop out of the solid and into the liquid. When that happens, energy is removed from the ice (via the latent heat of fusion), lowering its temperature. This is the mechanism that causes two substances that are both at -2C to spontaneously get colder.
I'll demonstrate this tonight as well. It was specifically mentioned earlier that some people keep their aclohol in the freezer. Based on my results from last night, if I take ice and alcohol from a freezer (at about -15C if I remember correctly) and mix them together, I will achieve a temperature perhaps as low as -30C.
The other specific case mentioned by the OP was room temperature alcohol mixed with ice at 0C. I'll try that as well. The result will again be a mixture a little below 0C.