Black holes absorb surrounding matter through processes like accretion disks, where collisions allow particles to lose angular momentum and fall in. Observers at a finite distance perceive that objects take an infinite time to reach the event horizon, but this is a misconception; infalling objects experience a finite time to cross the horizon according to their own clocks. The discussion emphasizes that not all events are observable from every perspective in curved spacetime, and the lack of observation does not negate the occurrence of events. The concept of a universal "when" in general relativity is flawed, as time is relative and depends on the observer's frame of reference. Understanding black hole dynamics requires a nuanced grasp of relativity, beyond simplistic interpretations.