dwspacetime said:
let's make it very simple. let me modify my original question to this. Tom and Mary in spacetime. in Tom's frame Mary is moving towards him in 0.8C and in Mary's frame Tom is moving towards her in 0.8C. when Mary is 4 lys away from Tom in Tom's frame how far is Mary from Tom? why?
Note that your statement "
when Mary is 4 lys away" from Tom has to be the result of a measurement along a distance separated by two endpoints that are constantly at rest, otherwise there is no "distance" onto which we can apply the length contraction formula, and there would be nothing to discuss about.... So there is always something equivalent to your planets, if you want it or not.
It's like the relativity of motion: If a ball is
at rest in Tom's frame, it is obviously
in motion in Mary's frame. Do you think this "asymmetry" violates the relativity principle?
Now let's discuss your length contraction experiment along the same lines:
a) An experimentalist defines a distance of 4 lightyears in Tom's frame S, consisting of endpoints that are both constantly at rest with respect to Tom.
b) So in all other inertial frames those endpoints have a constant speed different from zero and the distance in between them is length contracted. So Tom measures a (proper) length of 4 lightyears, while Mary measures a (contracted) length of 2.4 lightyears.
c) What is the cause of this asymmetry? Well, simply YOUR (being an experimentalist) decision to measure endpoints that are at rest in S.
d) Of course, the experimentalist can decide to choose ''another set of endpoints'' constantly at rest in Mary's frame S' that are separated by 4 lightyears. In this case everything is reversed: The S' observer measures the length of 4 lightyears, while the S observer measures 2.4 lightyears. However, since this distance is defined by a new set of endpoints, it has nothing to do with the distance measured by Tom...