xinhangshen said:
The problem in your reasoning is that you have already assumed special relativity is correct and set the y-direction speed of the ball of B in A's static reference frame to be smaller than the y-direction speed of the ball of A (i.e. uB = uA/##\gamma##). With this speed difference, of course, you will get the time difference (or more directly the y position difference).
Well, of course I have assumed that special relativity is correct because your original question, all the way back in post #1, was "Can anybody give me an explanation how to resolve the contradiction?" - and there is no contradiction if you assume that special relativity is correct.
The objection that you're raising in the bolded text above suggests that you're starting with a misunderstanding of SR, and that that misunderstanding is leading you to see a contradiction where there is none.
We have started with two identically constructed ball on rod devices. Because they are identically constructed and subject to the same laws of physics, they must operate identically in frames at which they are at rest: B's experience with his ball-rod device is not affected by the fact that A is moving away from him at .6c, just as A's experience with his own ball-rod device is not affected by the fact that B is moving away from him at .6c. This is basically the first postulate of special relativity, and before you reject it out of hand, you might want to consider what would be different (nothing!) for A or B if the other one were suddenly to disappear completely.
Because these are identically constructed devices subject to the same laws of physics, we can be confident that they behave identically in frames in which they are at rest. (We can also verify this by bringing them back together, resetting the position of the ball to zero, and watching them operate side by side with no relative speed).
Therefore, we know that both balls are advancing at a speed of one meter per second as viewed by the observers who are at rest relative to them. In fact, in the theory of relativity, they ARE clocks (Google for Einstein's phrase "time is what a clock measures" and understand what it means), and both A and B can read the current value of their t coordinate from the position of their ball on their rod.
The fact that A sees B's ball moving at .8 the speed of his own, and vice versa, is just another way of saying that B's time is dilated relative to A and vice versa. Both of them agree that their own ball is moving at one meter per second.
(Come to think of it... If I were to bend the rods into circles in the y-z plane, the balls would be describing circles, just as if they were dots on the tip of the hand of a mechanical clock... I could even paint little numbers, 1 through 12 along the rods... and then the clockiness of the bar-rod devices would become even more apparent).